Thick and Thin :: Part 2
My second break-up with a friend was with my ex-bf. Before he became a boyfriend, that is. I was nearing 18.
We were classmates for the 4th year in a row. We were the only two students from the same class in Form 5, and hence we were rather compatible with each other. Now I can't be certain of the exact reason why I started to have a fallout with the guy, but I know it was somewhere around the end of my first year in Form 6. And it wasn't just me. It was an entire group of us that decided to ignore the guy in retribution for the things he was doing to us.
You see, we were elected to the Sixth Form Council, while my ex-bf wasn't. We had major projects lined-up for the entire year, and here was a non-committee member in , affecting the work we were trying to get done just because he was closer to the teachers. After a while the lot of us got fed up with the sight of him sitting in board-meetings we decided to boycott the dude. It was extra obvious on my part because I had previously been a close friend of his. (I was only a teenager, and yes, very petty.)
Again, this deliberate choice of not speaking to each other went on for ages. In a classroom of only 25-odd students, it was quite apparent. But somewhere along the way, after the passing on of duties to the next board, and the commencement of serious mugging for the STPM papers, we started talking to each other again. We would meet up during night study classes, and go out for breaks together. A few months after the STPM papers, we sort of 'fell in love' and the rest, as they say, is history, and we dated each other for three years before heading into a bigger fallout (now, we're not even in contact at all).
The purpose of all this? I'm not sure. Maybe I'm trying to check the kind of friendships I've been making with the opposite sex, especially the stranger, more significant ones that have happened in recent years. Call it a revision of past lessons.
November 8th, 2004 at 3:15 pm
The best people to fall in love with are always your friends…they are also the hardest and riskiest people to fall in love with.
But knowing you the way I do.
Never feel bad about the road that was taken. Never feel it was a mistake to be made no matter what the pain you’ve gone through. You’re right….their all lessons. Nothing you should regret at all.
November 8th, 2004 at 5:05 pm
This the way you test friendships? With strangers? O_o
November 8th, 2004 at 9:52 pm
No lah!!! what I meant was… I’ve had very strange friendships in life.
November 8th, 2004 at 9:54 pm
Strange, sometimes weird lah…