just minishorts.

Essentials ones. Written by an AIESEC alumni (whom I'm certain I've met during the Flame dinner but still can't match the nickname to the person). Two consecutive posts on how to be THE MAN (as I type this I keep hearing someone's voice echoing in my ears, reminiscent of that night drinking beer at Restoran Chor Kee, 'You da man, man… you da man…') in HER LIFE.

Yes yes I'm providing publicity to an unknown senior. But good ones. Click for the essentials.

Part 1

Part 2

So anyway, I was reading the posts, and there's this line that sticks out like a bald chicken among the roosters. Its the very same line that I kept hearing from ex boyfriends too, whenever I ask them for an opinion on something, or an advice on what I should do. You know, asking for answers to questions like 'What do you think?', or 'What should I do?', or 'How should I handle this?'

The relationship suicide answers are as follows, and I kid you not, all the guys I've dated seriously, or have had remote ideas of committing in a relationship to, have committed this crime:

'Do whatever you want.'
'Up to you.'
'I tell you the same thing, anything you want.'
'I always tell you, you should do anything that you want to do.'
'Up to you, do anything you want.'

First month of a relationship, that line glows within you. If you keep hearing it over and over again, you wonder, 'WTF do I even bother asking him in the first place when he's going to tell me the same thing?'

Yah. Right. That's relationship suicide for you. If a woman asks, it means she wants a suggestion, not something like, 'Do whatever you want.'

That said, I know I am equally guilty of committing relationship suicide. Here's a classic conversation.

Him: What you want to eat tonight?
Her: Anything.
Him: Hmmm… bakuteh?
Her: Erm… too fatty.
Him: Erm… let's go have some Malay food.
Her: Where?
Him: I know this stall near my house…
Her: Dirty lah…
Him: Ok ok, let's go get Hokkien Char, you know… that shop near Taman Len Seng…
Her: I don't feel like having Hokkien Char at all…
Him: (Getting pretty annoyed by now..) You want me to cook or not? Spaghetti… we can do some cooking together…
Her: Lazy lah…
Him: Then what you want to eat?
Her: Anything…

That's relationship suicide for you. Oh yeah, I know most of my girl-friends do it to guys ALL THE TIME, not necessary romantic partners either! I know Dads get it, Brothers get it, Cousins get it, Friends get it… and honestly, if I were put in the guy's shoes: yes, it's freaking annoying!! So, girls, I'm reminding you to control yourself.

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