Blog(ger) Hating
Is that the norm over here?
Caleb pointed it out to me and it, well, it didn't actually get me thinking because I HAVE been thinking about it for a while. Obviously that scenario is coming into the picture on quite a recurring basis these days, but being blog-izens (shit that's a corny namesake, but bear with me please), it's just something that we have to handle.
I'm a proud blog-izen because I've been here for a while and I've been through several phases. I've been through that traffic-whoring stage, and I've been through that blog-hating stage. Maybe even now I'm going through that stage as well… i.e. I decide to blog-surf one day (no, I don't blog-surf, yes I said that already, so don't beg me for link-exchanges because if you're good I'll just plug you in without invites), and I come to a horribly badly written page…
And I decide that I do not like it.
I realize that badly written blog belongs to some holier-than-thou blogger who's eagerly traffic-pinching, and 'proud of it'…
And I tell myself I do not want to visit it again because it makes me want to puke.
But yes, I'll admit it. I find myself going back to it day after day. And inducing myself into more disgusted reaction. Somehow, in a morbid sense, I'm drawn to it. But you see what I do, to distinguish the 'likes' from the 'dislikes'.
I leave the person alone.
I have something to say to that person.
I say it in another way.
I have something against that person.
I ignore that person, and rephrase my sentences. But I don't leave messages. I don't try my best not to spread badfire.
Well. I just realized that sometimes I do, spread badfire that is. My bad. But it is usually unintentional.
You see, sometimes of course, we bloggers do meet up. I have a group of friends who blog together, tsk tsk, very different from BLOG-CLIQUEs. I told Caleb that I'm a lone-ranger, very different from what the rest of the blogosphere thinks. At my mamak sessions, usually April-girl and Nick-korkor are regular kakis. Occasionally, I let out news as to where my whereabouts will be for that night, and a stranger, or two, or three, turn up to join in the bitch-fest, and hey, there you have it, a bunch of people who all do not like the same person. And badfire is started. And spreads. We bitch and rant about idiotic bloggers who make fools out of themselves and boasting about how popular they are, what moves they're going to take to increase traffic, and….the lowest of them all, kicking another blogger into silence.
Now I understand that somewhere along the way, I might have done that. If you think I have offended you in anyway or another, please know that it is not my intention to silence you. I have not mentioned names. If you choose to obliterate yourself, from a forum, from a meet, from the blogspace even, don't blame me. The Net is like an open 'speakers' corner', albeit an uncontrolled one. Freedom of speech is rampant, no no, that's not so good a word here, freedom of speech is seldom exercised with care. And that's not entirely a bad thing, because blogging actually builds character.
What kind of character are you to disappear just because someone as insignificant as minishorts feels strongly against you?
Since I'm already here, I might as well spill my other thoughts, yeah. You know that awards thing that attracted 23 comments on some other site (I'm not going to plug it because it's not exactly something I like, but yes, I have plugged it before). Snide remarks aside (yes there's a horridly long and sniding comment in that side, and it looks quite hilarious), the question that popped to my mind when I read that list of winners was: not another one?
I don't see the point. Why is there a list of revelled bloggers? You don't need awards to help people learn about gems out there in the big big market. This is one. This is another. This is another. And another. You read them? Look, they don't have the long lists of fans that Jeff welcomes, but they are good, and that alone demands respect.
I don't see another point. So I was most kesian blogger, a title conferred to 'test my reaction'. OK. You've got my reaction. And then? What good does it do you?
Never mind. There are another two who were given not-so-sympathetic titles. Which resulted in the horridly slandering comment. I don't blame the commentor. Someone calls you the 'most pathetic for hits blogger', and you keep quiet? Now that someone who decided to run his own awards ceremony, the question is… what's the whole point of the ceremony?
So strange. So pointless. But you got our attention all right. And then. Silence.
I don't see another post from that guy. So sad. I was seriously looking forward to reading more. Maybe later, I might want to link that guy. No exchange required.
I don't have a bad temper dudes. I just lapse into moments. When I blog, boy, I really blog. It's not for reading. Hell, if my blogs were for reading they wouldn't be so very long. But today, I went over to Caleb's site, and found another entry that triggered this long post.
Thanks for reading this far.
April 5th, 2005 at 2:57 pm
this was a very long post indeed. but food for thought.
April 5th, 2005 at 5:25 pm
oooo. thanks.
I’d been meaning to post about this blog-hating trend thingy, but I decided against it, because once I start I can’t stop.
And anyway, I like to live in my own little world. 
April 5th, 2005 at 5:28 pm
hahahha eyeris: i still can’t stop…
April 5th, 2005 at 5:49 pm
i’ve forgotten what i wanted to say, but can i ask u how to change back to the template with the dutch lady? or coincidentally you changed the template?
April 5th, 2005 at 5:51 pm
SORRY SORRY… i’m testing out templates… please bear with me. but I promise that one of these days I’ll come up with one of my own.
April 5th, 2005 at 6:51 pm
eh, nice template lar….better than the previous one.
April 5th, 2005 at 7:08 pm
completely off entry topic but nice new layout!! i could practically smell the greens. it’s indeed refreshing.
April 5th, 2005 at 7:37 pm
did you change the template because someone previously commmented that the lemon looked like a nipple?
:) 
April 5th, 2005 at 8:39 pm
What’s with the layout changes? I keep wondering if I’ve come to the wrong site… Liked the picture of the woman in minishorts in the “pink” layout - or at least, I presume those were minishorts she was wearing, hehe.
April 6th, 2005 at 12:11 am
sorry sorry. am still running around trying to make things look more me.
too lazy to come up with a new design lah. EH don’t comment on the layout. say something smarter!!
April 6th, 2005 at 12:54 am
something smarter?
after reading a certain blog, i just feel like slapping the blogger. just irritates me a whole lot. why ah?
is that smart enough?
*hehe*
April 6th, 2005 at 1:23 am
FeR: *OUCH* did you just slap me? hahaha.
April 6th, 2005 at 6:55 pm
Nolah! I will only sayang and worship minishorts.
*haha*
April 6th, 2005 at 11:19 pm
agreed and agreed. about the phases, they seem to always return in cycles.
September 22nd, 2005 at 10:51 pm
You’ve already blogged about what I was talking with you about!
I didn’t know there were blogging phases
September 23rd, 2005 at 2:11 am
(Lainie’s comment brought me here)
erm, if ur blog’s not for reading, then… how come i was unfortunate to have just read it wor? maybe the password-protection failed? *scratch head*
Ok, blame auto-ping PPS. And hey, KennySia pinged the same post twice today, traffic-whoring? Can’t be, coz he’s femes… But other ppl who do it? We must condemn them to the 18th floor in hell. Such wannabes! Hehe…
Bah humbug.
(PS: I like this post. I really do. No profanities, sarcasm, and it came ’straight from the heart’, so much easier to read, lol)