Sorry: Why, When, How
Apr 18, 2005 in Web-logger
Some readers have said that I was starting have started a blog war, and some said that they're taking out popcorn and coke to watch the 'show'.
Well the show did proceed, and I'm not sure that it was THAT enjoyable after all.
So the popcorn party went on, and resulted in a public apology. I thus applaud this brave woman for apologizing, but truly, and deeply, I am not deserving of any 'I'm sorry', or 'I am bad'. I am deeply touched, greatly amused and supremely awed by Auntie Lilian's public apology to me, which she first e-mailed to me, and which she later posted on her blog (and ironically coupling it with the description of an abandoned old man), on my blog. And my stupid MySQL comments systems still comes up, so sorry, but I really don't have the time to fix it up, plus I have no idea how to fix it up.
I have been on the scene for almost three years, and in my 'humbled' blogging experience, I have pissed off many other bloggers, forged friendships and created some borders. The test of a writer's endurance, is how he/she is able to continue with a straight back and not change a thing about yourself just to suit the masses. You don't write for the masses, you write for your own readers yourself, and I still say your biggest fan has got to be yourself. Everyone else that comes along the way is merely a bonus.
At the end of the day, what you are witnessing here is the power of speech, and how conscience is truly defined. The pen keyboard is therefore, mightier than the sword and whatever is happening, is prime example of how true this saying is. So somehow along the way, I read about a good not-so-good list of guidelines, and like so many other people, I did not agree to it, and I blogged about it. But unlike so many other people, I chose not to do any linky-lurves, because after all, being famous, albeit for the wrong reasons, will make you know who-this-particular-person-is anyway. I wonder why it caused an mini volcanic eruption, because I am certain that many other people did not agree with her, and like so many other people, I merely blogged my disagreement. Minishorts.net is not a very famous site, and were I a not-so-notorious blogger, I seriously doubt that I would have garnered something as momentous and important as a public apology, with my name printed on it. Which is why I think 'sorry' is not always necessary, especially in this case.
How conscience is truly defined, when apologies are coupled with explanations, I still wonder. If you really meant it, your sorry requires no explanation. If it comes from the heart, you don't announce to the world via a chat channel, prior to apologizing online. You see, Auntie Lilian has announced it somewhere that she is 'too old to fight with people' . Now, my mother has always taught me to respect my elders, and I will accept that sorry because making an older woman apologize to me is not exactly a respectful thing at all.
That said, I don't think going on an IRC channel and announcing to the world that you will say sorry to me because you have balls that are bigger then most men, and then proceeding to say sorry to me, is a very noble or 'brave' thing to do. Now, Auntie Lilian, if it wasn't clear enough already, I was not asking for an apology, but because you said 'I'm sorry' I will accept that, but it would have been nice if that sorry was not coupled with a prior announcement that went along the lines of, 'If she has balls, she will accept.'
You see, the Internet has ears, and what goes around, will come around, and what is said about another, will not escape the ears of who is spoken of.
And the rest of the world… I hope you are duly entertained, but you can take it from me that I was not at all. And, because it is customary for posts like this to be accompanied by disclaimers, here is mine: It is not of my intention to 'silence' another blogger, because I am all for freedom of speech. And despite all her annoying misgivings and traffic whoring, Lilian's blog is pretty addictive to read, because she annoys me to death, and not to mention that she boasted that she has balls bigger than most men. Which she does, as proven in this wonderfully entertaining episode. And that just means she's a very good writer, which also means she's going to be around for a very long time much to the annoyance of people like me and some people who agree with me, so please give her credit for that and add her to your bloglines today.
And oh, I've plugged her so many times in this post because she said sorry to me publicly, and I suspect she will be damn happy for the influx of traffic that will go her way today. So Lilian, for being such a wonderful person, I am gladly promoting your site for you, free-of-charge.



