Sorry: Why, When, How
Some readers have said that I was starting have started a blog war, and some said that they're taking out popcorn and coke to watch the 'show'.
Well the show did proceed, and I'm not sure that it was THAT enjoyable after all.
So the popcorn party went on, and resulted in a public apology. I thus applaud this brave woman for apologizing, but truly, and deeply, I am not deserving of any 'I'm sorry', or 'I am bad'. I am deeply touched, greatly amused and supremely awed by Auntie Lilian's public apology to me, which she first e-mailed to me, and which she later posted on her blog (and ironically coupling it with the description of an abandoned old man), on my blog. And my stupid MySQL comments systems still comes up, so sorry, but I really don't have the time to fix it up, plus I have no idea how to fix it up.
I have been on the scene for almost three years, and in my 'humbled' blogging experience, I have pissed off many other bloggers, forged friendships and created some borders. The test of a writer's endurance, is how he/she is able to continue with a straight back and not change a thing about yourself just to suit the masses. You don't write for the masses, you write for your own readers yourself, and I still say your biggest fan has got to be yourself. Everyone else that comes along the way is merely a bonus.
At the end of the day, what you are witnessing here is the power of speech, and how conscience is truly defined. The pen keyboard is therefore, mightier than the sword and whatever is happening, is prime example of how true this saying is. So somehow along the way, I read about a good not-so-good list of guidelines, and like so many other people, I did not agree to it, and I blogged about it. But unlike so many other people, I chose not to do any linky-lurves, because after all, being famous, albeit for the wrong reasons, will make you know who-this-particular-person-is anyway. I wonder why it caused an mini volcanic eruption, because I am certain that many other people did not agree with her, and like so many other people, I merely blogged my disagreement. Minishorts.net is not a very famous site, and were I a not-so-notorious blogger, I seriously doubt that I would have garnered something as momentous and important as a public apology, with my name printed on it. Which is why I think 'sorry' is not always necessary, especially in this case.
How conscience is truly defined, when apologies are coupled with explanations, I still wonder. If you really meant it, your sorry requires no explanation. If it comes from the heart, you don't announce to the world via a chat channel, prior to apologizing online. You see, Auntie Lilian has announced it somewhere that she is 'too old to fight with people' . Now, my mother has always taught me to respect my elders, and I will accept that sorry because making an older woman apologize to me is not exactly a respectful thing at all.
That said, I don't think going on an IRC channel and announcing to the world that you will say sorry to me because you have balls that are bigger then most men, and then proceeding to say sorry to me, is a very noble or 'brave' thing to do. Now, Auntie Lilian, if it wasn't clear enough already, I was not asking for an apology, but because you said 'I'm sorry' I will accept that, but it would have been nice if that sorry was not coupled with a prior announcement that went along the lines of, 'If she has balls, she will accept.'
You see, the Internet has ears, and what goes around, will come around, and what is said about another, will not escape the ears of who is spoken of.
And the rest of the world… I hope you are duly entertained, but you can take it from me that I was not at all. And, because it is customary for posts like this to be accompanied by disclaimers, here is mine: It is not of my intention to 'silence' another blogger, because I am all for freedom of speech. And despite all her annoying misgivings and traffic whoring, Lilian's blog is pretty addictive to read, because she annoys me to death, and not to mention that she boasted that she has balls bigger than most men. Which she does, as proven in this wonderfully entertaining episode. And that just means she's a very good writer, which also means she's going to be around for a very long time much to the annoyance of people like me and some people who agree with me, so please give her credit for that and add her to your bloglines today.
And oh, I've plugged her so many times in this post because she said sorry to me publicly, and I suspect she will be damn happy for the influx of traffic that will go her way today. So Lilian, for being such a wonderful person, I am gladly promoting your site for you, free-of-charge.
April 18th, 2005 at 10:35 am
weird to observe cries for extinguishing ‘the’(yeah it needs no name nomore) flame when nobody was even flaming on IRC, not even a whiff of smoke. hahahaha
April 18th, 2005 at 10:53 am
*still staying happily on sidelines enjoying fireworks* dum di dum…
April 18th, 2005 at 11:56 am
Let’s smoke the peace pipe? As for IRC, if anyone takes whatever is said seriously, the whole world will be dead.
April 18th, 2005 at 1:52 pm
hmmm. now i’m wondering. if i had a blog and i posted about something and minishorts didn’t like my post and posted against it, would i get personal?
April 18th, 2005 at 2:23 pm
SHE screwed up, got snapped, clawed, bashed, whacked. She apologised - profusely.
Fair, square and due.
Now isn’t it time YOU let go, get OVER it, and MOVE on?
April 18th, 2005 at 4:24 pm
Like i said. I am thoroughly astounded. Apology accepted. Didn’t you read the fine print?
April 18th, 2005 at 4:38 pm
I am too scared to say anything.
And this is coming from a guy with balls the size of coconuts.
DAMN!
April 18th, 2005 at 5:27 pm
She apologised to get more attention, why else?
A lot of people are tired of her fake ass humilty, as her bandwidth usage grew so did her ego (exponentially).
She usually pulls some crap like this followed by a sappy post about her son to get some more symphathy and attention or something vaguely religious and totally hypocritical.
She’s possibly the most insincere, manipulative, ego-ridden person in the Malaysia ‘blogosphere’ at present, it’s quite possible she shall spontaneously combust soon.
Let’s hope so anyway.
Her ‘what makes a good blog’ post is just another example of her getting too big for her boots, it’s complete shit, she got popular by stirring up trouble, I guess one day it’s going to come back to her.
What goes around comes around.
April 18th, 2005 at 5:44 pm
yada yada yada
aren’t you people tired of this? (sorry minishorts, I don’t mean you… I meant “Someone”)
Her post was not meant directly to anyone or anybody in particular. (and she has her damn free will to write whatever in her post, it’s our chouice to read)
Why are you directing the flame on her?
April 18th, 2005 at 6:38 pm
kenny: u got balls bigger than coconuts? can go cha-cha-cha like coconut shells or not??
someone, kenneth: yeah, exactly. lilian’s really a nice kind lady who does nice things for the community…
April 18th, 2005 at 9:34 pm
You share an existence with others who are experiencing their own blogging in their own ways, and you have blogging in common, then.
As one blogger to another, I salute you. Be kind to yourself and to your fellow bloggers.
April 18th, 2005 at 11:00 pm
i didn’t catch the whole “controversy” coz i don’t read auntie lilian. however, from what i gather from this post, i have to sound a big “Amen!” to “Someone” who commented earlier.
that old woman is just doing it for publicity, the initial post, the follow ups and now this fake ass “public apology” is all just an attempt to garner more hits to her site.
it’s all a circus, round and round we go, with ol auntie lilian scheming how to get more visitors.
heh!
i’m not as hypocrtical as her though, so i must say that i do publicity stunts as well. difference is, i create my content, instead of using cheap shots to generate hits. like tht fake ass apology (thinly disguised attempt for one last encore of incoming hits).
don’t mind me though, i’m just chilling out here, laughing at the photos of lilian (oops, personal low blow there) while chilling out on methadone and benzos. oh, i’m such a drug addict.
sorry for voicing out my comments on your blog chooki, couldn’t be bothered to read through all the varients of lilians latest publicity stunt.
i still think my controversial posts are better though, coz it hurts no one (except myself) and the content actually takes effort to create. but maybe thats the methadone unashamely talking. i’m more coherant on methamphetamine but i’m on methadone now. coz i want to chill out. and peace out. and all out. and er..yeah.
i know, i know, i’m an asshole. but that’s me in a nutshell.
if i don’t like someone, they’ll know it.
April 18th, 2005 at 11:33 pm
Hi Minishorts
April 19th, 2005 at 12:45 am
mwt: thank you.
huaibin: gosh. ok …. you should start to go off those slowly (STILL behind you all the way) but i’m glad you liked this post as much as i did.
lilian: you really are nice and kind. * HELLO *
April 19th, 2005 at 11:50 am
Aih…I’m juz a new kid on d block…N this whole scenario is scary
Nvrtheless, I’m still gonna hang around everyone’s site, including Auntie Lilian and urs, minishorts. I’m kinda sitting on the fence.
And my frend once told me: “duduk atas pagar, cucuk buntut sendiri”
i’m juz glad everything’s fine, n everybody back to their business n keep d ‘traffic’ flowing….:razz:
April 19th, 2005 at 9:51 pm
Now Dracol, why would the scenario be any scary as minishorts has made it clear she is not asking for an apology. She is not fighting any battle here you see, unlike the “hulabaloo” created by the other on her own blog… then, now and tommorow.
When I first discover BLOGS, Lilian’s is one of the one that touches my heart on a few reads. However, I too soon found out that she is fast to swift to sappy mode when people are not walking on the same line of thoughts. Wont elaborate on it as I don’t really think I have the rights to dispute her as a mother greater than anyone else just becoz….
But, u see, negative comment are not allowed there. If it happens there, “flaming” sirens is on immediately everywhere on every channel she’s in.
With her around, as someone who is proud that she is willing to apologize, all will be fine and dandy. So no, it is not scary. Case close, no?