I used to have lots of idealistic views about love and how it should be, not any more.

Each of you who have the opportunity to share with another then know that is grace, and be thankful for that which you experience, and do not underestimate what you have.

Accept those relationships that you now have, and realize their potential and do not close yourselves off through stupid pride and through barriers (beliefs) of your own making.

Examine your invincible and core beliefs – strong ideas about your existence; the way you build your life. Once understood to be false, the other subsidiary and offshoots will fall away. Distinguish between the facts of life and the beliefs of life - a daunting task for many.

A couple in relationships can constantly reinforce its joy, gaiety and spontaneity by concentrating on ideas of vitality, strength and creativity or let half of its energy slip away by reinforcing resentments, angers and thoughts of doubt and failure. You get what you concentrate upon and there is NO other rule.

You can know each other in each life a brief time. What joy and comfort you can give, then give. What support you can render, render. Do you realize that by doing this you become more than you think you are?

There is No merit in self-sacrifice. For one thing it is impossible. The self grow and develops and cannot be annihilated. You must not expect to be “perfect” – a state of fulfillment beyond which there is no further growth, and no such state exists.

Self-sacrifice usually means throwing the “burden” of yourself upon someone else and making it their responsibility.

A mother telling her child, “I gave up my life for you” is speaking nonsense. In basic terms such a mother believes, no matter what she says, that she did not have much to give up and the “giving up” gave her a life that she wanted.

A child who says, “I gave up my life for my parents and devoted my life to their care” means “I was afraid to live my own life, and afraid to let them live theirs. And is so ‘giving up’ my life I gain the life I wanted.”

Love does not demand sacrifice. You do not help your children by keeping them chain to you, but you do not help your parents either by encouraging their sense of helplessness.

The natural force of love is everywhere within you, and the normal methods of communication are always meant to bring you in contact with fellow creatures.

You must love yourself before you love another. When you love others, you grant them the innate freedom and do not cravenly insist they attend you. There is no basic difference between the love of a child for a parent or vice versa, a wife for a husband, a brother for a sister. There are only various expressions and characteristics of love, and all love affirms. There are many errors frequently committed in the name of love.

Love is of course always changing. There is no one (permanent} state of deep mutual attraction in which two people is forever involved.

As an emotion, love is mobile and can change quite easily to anger or hatred, and back again.

You are hardly at the mercy of a reality, therefore, that exits apart from yourself, or is thrust upon you.

“A flood of unconditional love is flowing to you constantly from your reality, and is there for you - if you are willing to receive it.” – Tora Shanwn

But oh well, it’s not a perfect world