Well, it ain’t easy pleasing a man
And you called us picky.
Blah. Okay. HERE WE GO.
Nick Tay wants a family:
At the end of the day, I look for somebody who I would want to see as the mother of my children.
OK that one acceptable lah. Women also look for somebody who can be a good man and is deserving of the rising cake that he's going to make out of her, right?
And then Viewtru, of all people, implies that he likes shallow women…
Woman with deep characters tend to be stuffy, can keep the house clean, but will send the guy eagerly to an early grave. A great relationship is like the universe dancing with itself, geddit?
SO DISAPPOINTING! OK. Viewtru, humour me. How do you define 'deep'?
There are somemore:
Kenneth said:
She should be someone who does not parties too hard, but yet knows how to have fun.. intellectual but not a boring bookworm (am I asking for too much already?)
YOU THINK LEH? TOO MUCH OR NOT?
DannyFoo said:
Wise, Organized, Mildly Dependent, A funny person, Not clingy. And on the sides, there should always be honesty, sweet, polite and understanding. There’s no barrier to age if one doesn’t care for the number that you’re branded because the person you date or marry is the person and not the number.
Erm… on the side wanna add thousand island and olive oil or not? Might taste better summore.
ruud said:
If you’re looking for a hot babe to bed then you’re not really looking for a girl at all.
OI! I so happen to be a girl and I think I'm a hot babe ok? Nothing beats a girl with self-styled narcissistic confidence. BLAH.
SaDdNesZ.jc said:
Independant to the extent that I don’t need to do everything for her, but yet, will still come to me for the occasional brut strength that a man should possess. Emotionally, she must be strong so that she can support me when I am down, as I will support her when she finds herself in the same predicament. . I do think that generally, guys like their woman to be just slightly weaker than they are… Not too much, just a little bit…
LIKE OMG can make up your mind or not? HOW lah like this?
Jeremy C gave a classic:
I am Yin, and she’s my Yang.
…and together, we will complete the Tao. OHMMMMMMMMM!!
Din's choice:
Someone I can depend on as per the saying “behind every successful man is a great woman”. Nobody is perfect, but you can learn to accept that woman into your life.
Tsk. Tsk. Ego, ego. Quite the big-O!
Ghoul is the perfect Mills & Boons candidate author:
She would be the lighthouse in the darkest of my nights, and accept me as the flame in the cold of her winters.
Like how… WOW is that, HOH?
EK wants to be the Knight in Shining Armour in her fairytale situation…
We too, as guys have our role to play to foster that situation, to make her feel loved and secure when she is with us. Unfortunately it is a fine balance, whereby a lot of women tend to get too dependent and lose the ‘subtlety’ and ruin the equilibrium.
…but doesn't fail to, erm, still fault the woman in this scenario. Check yourself out man… Equilibrium pulak. Apa ni?
Wan Zafran is rather prolific but selective. See, he wants a lot of things in the woman of his dreams, but then again, promises the following:
And in return, I promise you, my prospective wife, that I will be, and always will be, loyal, to you. I’ve got a track record for loyalty and personal principles when it comes to the matter of relationships, and I’m not about to deviate from it in any manner.
Then when dreamer-idiot came up with this
Wow, all the guys here are the type of guys almost every girl won’t mind having as a life-partner, they are sensitive, broaded minded guys who retain their ‘masculinity’ / ‘bloke-iness’.
Errr…. achelly hoh, I'm not so sure if the girls like the guys here hoh… I dunno hoh… YOU see their comments hoh… I seriously hoh dunno how to respond lor… but yeah… well… Ladies? What you think?
***This post was not meant to insult anyone what so ever. Learning about the opposite sex has to be an enjoyable experience… and it isn't always that we get to talk things out HONESTLY. So try to keep an open mind as you sieve through the comments (and how I responded to them). For all its worth, what the men have said are valid and real things that women often fail to 'supply' so to speak. But let's be civil whenever we battle out the gender issues, yeah?
September 6th, 2005 at 11:05 am
how about suck n swallow?
September 6th, 2005 at 11:06 am
September 6th, 2005 at 11:35 am
why not a post on the preferred man?:roll:
September 6th, 2005 at 11:50 am
ROFL!! Man.. the classic reply just cracked me up!
Hey when do we girls get our turns, huh?
September 6th, 2005 at 12:16 pm
good in the kitchen, lovely accessory at functions, perfect mum to the children and , most of all, excitin in bed
September 6th, 2005 at 12:19 pm
There are some ‘truths’ in the yin and the yang thing, you know. Most guys would want a woman to complement and complete him.
Taking from Greek mythology, men and women were formed out of a separation of two halves, hence would seek ‘another’ to complete him/herself, while at the same time being mutually independent beings. So, the whole debate about an independent yet dependent woman works on this paradoxcical logic. In a way, both guys and girls want a partner who would bring out the best of each other, right?
[Feminists out there would slaughter me by arguing on the sexual politics on the definition of who is yin and who is yang, but I don;t think one should go by any strict defintions, we have both our 'good' and 'bad', 'masculine' and feminine']
September 6th, 2005 at 12:24 pm
Heheh, so in the end, both sides of the camp not meeting each others’ supply and demand :p
September 6th, 2005 at 12:45 pm
Hey as long as they (the woman) kick major ass when they need to. I don’t mind standing back to back, fighting along side them. A practical woman who knows when to sweet or blunt when the time is right.
Yeah…they are capable of anything that way. Uh oh.
September 6th, 2005 at 12:52 pm
Hey I miss it in the last post. So much has been said. But for both camps, here’s something from Elvis, the King, himself.
“Before you abuse, criticize, or accuse,walk a mile in my shoes.”
Or in this case, your husbandwifeboyfriendgirlfriend’s shoes.
September 6th, 2005 at 1:12 pm
alamak. kena ego: ‘the big-o’ pulak. Maybe i should have phrased it differently.
“behind my success, is her.”
September 6th, 2005 at 1:13 pm
words and words are all I have to take your heart away…..
soo much talking…let’s see the doin
September 6th, 2005 at 1:34 pm
Aisehman…minishorts…how come all the guys’ comments so berbunga wan..I tak suka lah =P
Well, I tell you guys something lah…you ppl can go on and on describing the type of girl you would like but you definitely will NEVER get a girl that fulfils all of your criterias (even if it’s those usual basic ones).
Love is BLIND. It’s really blind..you know why? When you fall in love with some chiq or dude, at first, you tutup both eyes and ignore his/her ugly traits (imperfections) coz you’re still high on love mah but the funny thing is when you reach the more stable part of the relationship, you still tutup both eyes and accept his/her ugly traits for he/she is who he/she is because now, you’re not high on love but you’re really truly in love.
September 6th, 2005 at 2:07 pm
Actually it’s harder pleasing a woman. They have way more expectations in a man.
September 6th, 2005 at 2:09 pm
WE WILL SEE later ok?
September 6th, 2005 at 3:05 pm
Aiyoooh…So complicated one meh? I like you, you like me can liao loh! Discuss until so cheem for what?
September 6th, 2005 at 3:09 pm
Aw, love is blind SOMETIMES. ya know its not blind when some goes out after they ‘observe’ the other party for a long time..
September 6th, 2005 at 3:16 pm
I just want 3 tits. Is that too much to ask?
September 6th, 2005 at 3:31 pm
ray: 3 tits can be achieved when you get a threesome (1M/2F) and one of the girls had just recovered from breast cancer.
September 6th, 2005 at 3:41 pm
SaDdNesZ.jc: Making fun of breast cancer is way uncool dude. I know it’s all in jest, but people die from breast cancer.
Don’t do it again, k.
September 6th, 2005 at 4:17 pm
Personally, I’m not picky with regards to girls (http://bujanglapuk.blogspot.com/2005/05/too-choosy-for-my-own-good.html). I’ll happily settle for any gal - ANY gal- who’s single, pleasant-looking (or better), intelligent, articulate, literate, capable, nice, considerate, etc. So if you know such a person, please introduce her to me. Especially if she’s in the UK.
September 6th, 2005 at 4:23 pm
AisehMAN, man right…when kahwin only complain and demand banyak but before married..fuh, control macho…always say that their expectations are not that high
September 6th, 2005 at 4:25 pm
LOL,
Thanks Mini
That’s a very interesting observation.
P.S. For the record, I have never read a single Milss&Boons (how do you spell that?) …
P.P.S. Why is Ying and Yang good? It’s like having 2 persons, one liking Football and the other not liking Football. That’s called Opposites. Opposites do not work. Imagine that you are watching sports on TV, and she wants to switch channel.
Instead you want someone who’s not the same as you (why do you need a mirror of yourself?) and not too different from you (too much disagreements are bad, too).
You want someone … who likes Football, for example, but just a different club as you. i.e. Arsenal and Chelsea. At least now both can sit down and enjoy a football match, and not arguing about which programme/channel to watch.
Similar, but not the same. Instead of Opposites.
September 6th, 2005 at 5:20 pm
” Nothing beats a girl with self-styled narcissistic confidence.”
Agreed but I was referring to the actual “bedding” rather than finding a hot babe.
Just suggesting that a guy looking for some chick to spend the night with isn’t exactly heading into this as a long term prospect. It’s true that we all want someone incredibly sexy, but if that’s all you really want in a person I feel that it probably wouldn’t work out once the chemistry begins to wear off.
And it does at some point. It’s a pity that a lot of people are incapable of grasping that fact and end up dating every loon they find seemingly attractive. It just leaves a lot of upset people IMHO.
September 6th, 2005 at 6:31 pm
“Well, it ain’t easy pleasing a man”
well it’s impossible to please anybody who refuses to be pleased
September 6th, 2005 at 6:53 pm
i think the guys here are just being…guys. err. i have yet to meet a guy who can come up with an answer that is not along the lines of those comments.
September 6th, 2005 at 7:03 pm
Since your question was “what do you look for in a woman?’, then obviously they will go all out to describe the perfect woman.
I think it will be the same response with the girls, too. We will also come up with a thousand and one criterias.
But at the end of the day, no one is perfect (regardless of how much we like to think we are). Everyone just needs to compromise and learn to accept the other party for who she/he is, warts and all.
September 6th, 2005 at 7:07 pm
Oh yeah, I’m disappointed with Viewtru’s answer also >
September 6th, 2005 at 7:10 pm
Oh man. sorry for the repeated postings, but my comment got cut off halfway.
What I meant to say was -
Oh yeah, I’m disappointed with Viewtru’s answer also.
How does deep character = stuffy? I don’t get the correlation at all. Deep character = not bimbotic = stuffy? huh?
And I don’t get the “a great relationship is like the universe dancing with itself” bit at all. Can someone please explain to me?
Ahaha…does this mean I’m not ‘deep’ enough to be stuffy, then?
September 6th, 2005 at 7:15 pm
Oh, come on! It was never a secret that I’m shallow! Men like variety but hate surprises. Women like surprises because women are from Venus, see? But men are from earth, and are more down to earth. They like women they can read easily so that they don’t feel that their lives are out of control. Deep characters are those that are very difficult to read, and therefore, much more difficult to please. Plain logic mah!
September 6th, 2005 at 7:40 pm
I guess, basically evyone’s looking for “requirements”. But when you really do fall in love, you’ll tend to accept ones good and bad deeds, but of course to a certain extend
September 6th, 2005 at 7:49 pm
well, if anything this only serves to show everyone’s got his/her different needs/criteria.
September 6th, 2005 at 8:10 pm
hehehe…
Yeah… yadda yadda… I want this, you want that
But I guess it should be a two way thingy, yes?
Like I always ask,’ You want so many things ah? What’s in it for me lah?’
Then, everybody will live happily ever afterrrr… The end.
Can or not like that? Teehee..
September 6th, 2005 at 8:24 pm
i will go hide in my cave now.. let me know when u guys sort things out..
September 6th, 2005 at 8:32 pm
I am going to her for a hug now
September 6th, 2005 at 9:55 pm
Kimberlycun: Every man knows that stops after getting married.
IgnorantAuthor: Do you girls have to talk about me?
Dreameridiot: The Greek who formulated that idea actually said there were THREE races of beings before they were split in two - one were male male, one were female female and the last was male female. It was used partly to explain the ‘lesbian’and ‘gay’ behaviour prevalent in Greek Society of the time.
S-Kay: I have learnt enough about love to have walked away from it when I knew it would never work! Love may be blind, but that doesn’t make it stupid! Even if I am in love, if I find I’ve been cheated on, then I walk!
Fidelity and mutual respect (which probably sums up what I am looking for) isn’t difficult to find, nor to give. [Yeah, I am old enough and been around a long time. I know if you keep trying to make a relationship work when it clearly won't, then you are just beating a dead horse!]
hgt: I agree.
Lishun: huh? What was wrong with my comments in the last post? Am I just being a guy too, or are you refering to just the comments for this post?
Yeah, some of them are just being guys … that’s why they are called guys!:-)
entwined: I don’t think I was describing the pefect woman. No such thing. (Same as no such thing as perfect man … but I’ve been told I come close!)
Faiez Idrus: Yep, like I said, mutual respect! Can’t ask for much more than that.
Jack0: come out of your cave. The girls won’t follow you in (but nice try anyway). Stay out here in the open where the girls can find you!
September 6th, 2005 at 11:06 pm
errrr. thanks dabido! you’re a gem!
September 6th, 2005 at 11:20 pm
Hahahah!! Dabido understands both guys and women! Whatever happened to the teflon suit?
September 6th, 2005 at 11:27 pm
viewtru: online? get your ass on. me turning on yahoo now.
September 7th, 2005 at 7:58 am
September 7th, 2005 at 8:28 am
*thinking thinking*. next post coming up.
haha you guys are fun!
September 7th, 2005 at 11:54 am
Jeremy C must be Ah Kua looking for a butch.
Because Yin is usually woman and yang is man.
September 7th, 2005 at 1:04 pm
Viewtru - Thanks mate! My next book will be called, ‘Men are from Mars, and women want to send them back there!’
Teflon suit is still working. Do you see any women hanging off me at present … Nope! They all slipped off, thanks to the suit!
hee hee
September 7th, 2005 at 1:45 pm
Dabido : Haiyoh…of course you must walk away when you’re cheated and blablabla…that’s down right SUPER blind if you don’t =P
September 7th, 2005 at 2:12 pm
I was just browsing thru when i noticed LISA’s comments and I feel compelled to retort.
I’ve never openly dissed anyone in the blogosphere and i’m not about to start now but for Miss Lisa’s sake, allow me to say a few things…
1. The Yin-Yang theory applies to the inherent characteristics/personality of a person and is not gender specific. ie not all guys are macho freaks and not all ladies are feminists.
2. I believe the intention in posting comments is to offer insights on the topic of discussion, and I believe your comments added no such value or constructivity whatsoever. Sure you can write whatever you want, but then again there is something called courtesy…
3. I enjoy humour as much as the next person but if it’s done or in this case written distastefully at the expense of others and without substance, then i don’t think it’s funny.
I believe that even on the net, there are certain responsibilities attached to what we write.
Have a nice day, y’all…
September 7th, 2005 at 2:19 pm
yeah lisa, that was a bit overkill.
i thought jeremy c’s comment was a classic, otherwise i wouldn’t have plugged it.
we do not always have to be politically correct here.
September 7th, 2005 at 2:23 pm
[...] Tens of months ago I posted that post about a woman’s worth, which is why I didn’t bother to ask what do women look for. As much as we try to remain humble, there is no denying the narcissism that underlies our basic characteristic: ‘we all want something that is impossible.’ [...]
September 7th, 2005 at 4:20 pm
Hey Minishorts! Yeah, maybe my joke went a bit overkill. Forgot to add this :-p and put a disclaimer. Sorry lah.
I cannot apologise on other people’s lack of humour and hence it is not worth rebutting to Mister Jeremyc.
I can only say that it is my bad for picking on the wrong person lor. Aiya, liddat next time I cannot make joke oredy here lah.
BTW, this post is cool and I’m not a feminist.
September 7th, 2005 at 4:35 pm
cool. now shake hands and make friends. OMMMMM…
September 7th, 2005 at 4:43 pm
Haha, way cool
Now Lisa, since you want to be the yin so much, I’ll be the yang okay?
Now let’s complete the Tao…
September 7th, 2005 at 5:21 pm
Jeremyc, let’s ommm together. Er, sounds a bit x-rated leh…
September 7th, 2005 at 6:13 pm
you guys need a middle person to help pass e-mail addresses? can contact each other you know.
I’ll be too happy to play match maker.