Fret not, nay impossible it is.
Gone With The Wind will always be my favourite-st romance movie of all time. Nice dresses and amazing backdrops aside, I just LOVE LOVE LOVE Scarlett O'Hara, great Southern Dame with that impeccable accent, and of course. Rhett Butler.
Ravishing Rhett.
For a show that is over half a century old (made in 1939, mind you), the script, the characters, the themes, the setting, make the perfect combination to tell you about RELATIONSHIPS at their worst, and at their best. Strip away the extravagances, and you'll be left with Scarlett, a woman who thinks too highly of herself, and Rhett, a man who so deeply in love he'll do anything for her.
Except of course, there is a threshold. It comes right at the end, 'Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.'
SO HERE I AM, apologizing for sparking this off. I mean, I expected some fun things lah, but oh well. Halfway through yesterday I found bawang merah's dejected post I almost chuckled. But I stopped short.
I'm sure the women were exagerrating . I mean, what to do-lah, who asked the guys to be so demanding in the first place? So I bet, the girls all went, 'Kantoi kasi dia.'
Forgive the language please.
What can I say? All's fair in love and war. You play too hard, you get slapped hard. You know what?
You so picky, GO lah single for life. Choose choose choose. You think you very good ah? Don't want don't want lah. I don't care also.
That's a line for BOTH sexes to think about.
And you know the other day the BF was talking about women, men and relationship and he came up with this, 'You know the urge to get married occurs more in women. Men? We don't really care. Don't marry only mah. Save money.'
See my stupid BF go and say things like that.
Anyway, he has a point OK. Except, it runs the same for women. Nowadays, you think we give a flying fuck about being lonely or not? No marry only mah. Save the trouble. No need to have children, no headache. Just care about myself cukup.
Point is. Love is a two-way thing, and it never was about yourself. Except, the acknowledgement of this fact almost always fades away by the time you're settled down in the relationship. You lose that first cha-cha-cha moment and then you start to think, 'I still love her/him meh?'
But mind you, I can tell you this: Men are MORE MORE MORE picky than women. I still stand by that.
I'll probably change that opinion the moment I get married. 
September 9th, 2005 at 10:19 am
I think both man and woman are picky but in different ways. SOME man - They look at the physical thing, SOME woman - They tend to look more for someone who can fulfil their emotional needs.
Gosh, if Naz said what Eric said, habis surely perang dunia ke-3 adi. Coz I would be like “You insensitive pig!”. Not that I’m calling Eric an insensitive pig ok
September 9th, 2005 at 10:21 am
Well, the qualities I’ve listed - I actually found them all in one person albeit the compromise here and there. Plus I’m sure he has his own list of what he desires in a woman and etc.
The thing is people change and so can that darn list.
September 9th, 2005 at 10:23 am
i think you’re right. men can be more picky. and i’m not even talking physical attributes here, but personality alone.
or maybe that’s just me
September 9th, 2005 at 10:25 am
Eric memang insensitive prick one. that’s why i love him.
WHAAHHAHAHAH SO SHY I CAN’T BELIEVE I SAID THAT!
September 9th, 2005 at 12:05 pm
minishorts: eric, eric, eric. if you go, where shall i go? what shall i do?
eric: frankly, my dear, i don’t give a damn
that kind of insensitive is it?:?:
September 9th, 2005 at 12:37 pm
heh, i tend to feel dejected all the time so no harm done. It was quite informative, compared to reading a mens magazine or womens magazine where everything either is too politically correct or caters to only one spectrum of the human race. At least i got to know, where i stand and what needs improving and i got some pointers on what to expect/demand. i say more of this
I think it’s good to be demanding [both sides]. people will strive to be better than what they are. Lower expectations tend to stagnate. But then if too demanding also not useful. Balance between supply and demand
September 9th, 2005 at 12:37 pm
Let’s see.. I’m picky when I really wanna shop for clothes to wear. Other than that, I’m more like the can’t make a quick decision type.:razz:
September 9th, 2005 at 12:51 pm
men are more picky than women, that’s the first.
anyway, i agree with s-kay. men and women are picky on different things.
at the end of the day, i think both sides are picky. imagine a girl coming back from a meet up with a very affable guy, he then proceeds to scrutinize his boyfriend on 10 reasons why you can’t be like him.
well, the same goes for guys too.
September 9th, 2005 at 12:52 pm
sorry in my third paragraph line 2 fourth word from the end is supposed to be a she.
yay, grammar freak!
nolar, just donch wan to confuse ppl. sorry ha ms
September 9th, 2005 at 12:53 pm
Ha ha ha ha ha!
Anyway, when it comes to everyone, you would have the best and the worst of both Worlds. And, depending on how they were exposed to the World, that is how their response is. Also, when they have reached one of the important milestones in their lives, their response changes too.
Then again, they could be because of who they are and who they are not, not could not.
September 9th, 2005 at 2:52 pm
both also picky la.. both also human with feelings.. only difference one got kuku and one got potpot… other than that, no difference….
September 9th, 2005 at 3:13 pm
Ah I agree with the ‘lose the cha-cha-cha and think “I still love him meh?” observation’.
The settling down part is the toughest, man…have to accept that the guy is no more thanking his lucky stars and looking at you with wonder and amazement because he got used to you in his life already. After settling down, things become more routine and predictable, so boredom COULD set in. Wah. Maintaining relationships require MUCHO work.
September 9th, 2005 at 4:33 pm
Nobody is perfect la rite?
Just look at Sex and the City. I mean, there could be a MEN version of it, rite mini?
So which one is you, Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda or Samantha?
Guess no one fits exactly or distinct from another, just bits of combination from all of them
September 9th, 2005 at 4:42 pm
Casablanca is better!
At least, I think so. But ah, old movies are better than current ones. Witty dialogue and not too much fat.
But Casablanca still has the wittiest dialogue!
September 9th, 2005 at 4:51 pm
Entwined : YES…maintaining is more difficult than getting the girl weh. OMG, I am dying trying to make my rship stay away from doing 100% routine stuffs.
September 9th, 2005 at 4:59 pm
rosalind:
consider this: it is a routine for ppl in relationships to want to stay away from doing 100% routine stuffs.
WAHAHAHAH ok i’m crapping. stupid things at work.
September 9th, 2005 at 5:04 pm
ceh, i’m a James Bond guy. sue me!
September 9th, 2005 at 6:26 pm
“‘You know the urge to get married occurs more in women. Men? We don’t really care. Don’t marry only mah. Save money.’”
I agree. But then there comes a time when one will look at the bigger picture and realise that marriage is the best option.
Perhaps that time comes abit later in life for men compared to women
September 9th, 2005 at 6:38 pm
depends on who you marry….
September 9th, 2005 at 8:21 pm
‘Gone with the wind’ was certainly an excellent movie. I also own the book. I almost chucked it out, because the writer is so racists. (I’m talking about the bits in the book where she [Margaret Mitchell] raves on about the ‘blacks like being slaves’ and that the ‘galant southern knights’ were trying to stop the north from giving ‘blacks’ freedom, which the ‘blacks’ didn’t want. It’s full of that sort of BS, often putting them down. I think most African American’s would be appalled by the book.)
Anyway, my ex-wife’s bestfriend was from south Africa (and she was what the South African’s used to call ‘coloured’ … ie ‘white’ and ‘black’ mix). She convinced me to look past the racism in the book. She was also reading it at the same time.
She pointed out that at the time it was written, most US Southerners couldn’t think outside the square they’d created (ie they couldn’t see past their racism). As such, my ex-wife’s best friend convinced me to keep the book.
Other than the obvious racism, it is quite a good book too. Give it a read (but remember, it is racist! Avoid it if you are going to be greatly offended).
[I wonder if they will re-write it one day. They have with some other racist books in the past ... I'll let you all debate the pro's and con's of rewriting such things].
September 9th, 2005 at 9:16 pm
Hi,
I’m writing an article about blogging in a newsletter called A-Voice for A-Level students at Help University College, Kuala Lumpur.
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I would like to request permission to publish your website in the newsletter.
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September 9th, 2005 at 10:09 pm
Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn.
Aw.
The reason behind my online moniker.
I shall not illustrate how I kena bruff by the above line and went into a rship almost 4 yrs ago.
Muahaha.
But yesh, I am waiting for my Rhett to sweep my feet off the ground.
September 10th, 2005 at 12:35 am
Janelle: my e-mail address exists for a reason, ok? mail me with the details please, thank you.
September 10th, 2005 at 8:47 am
A friend of mine once said this “Why settle for second best?”
Perhaps thats why some people are picky…. Don’t look for love, fall into it….
September 10th, 2005 at 5:29 pm
Minishorts, can invite us, your faithful readers to your wedding…plus the dinner lah?
Dabidon, thanks for the infor on the greek thing, appreciated it.
September 10th, 2005 at 9:45 pm
Dreamer idiot: No worries mate.
September 11th, 2005 at 1:47 pm
About men being more picky, I agree. We are cursed with being more visual and sometimes we are *very* shallow. So shallow that we can’t see the real person beyond the physical. Damn it.
September 11th, 2005 at 5:07 pm
i don’t think it’s a gender thing… whether someone’s picky or not, depends on the person.
*stubborn* braces still rock.
September 12th, 2005 at 12:05 pm
we should be picky! otherwise why the hell are we marrying for?
September 12th, 2005 at 7:01 pm
Coldfire: For the free sex.
September 12th, 2005 at 11:51 pm
hey! just wondering if you read the sequel to gone with the wind or watched the movie. I liked the novel better, it’s called scarlett by alaxander ripley. (if i remember correctly) and i watched the movie which stars the dude who acted in beautician and the beast. nevetheless, i think the novel is better. go check it out. oh and i skimmed through your blog, so if u mentioned reading or watching this already, just ignore the above then.