Why marry?
Nov 28, 2005 in Gender-bender
November seems a prime month for marriages. Just Sunday alone I spotted three cars made up with ribbons and all and the pretty silhouette of a veiled bride sitting peacefully in it. And then, on the way to Klang Mum and I saw a fleet of over 17 cars honking their way along the federal highway (presumably, on their way to pick up the bride).
On Saturday Eric and I were driving along the NPE, on our way to see the mechanic for his car… and then we saw the very strange sight of a Hilux all decked in ribbons and frills.
'Man, that cannot be, cannot be, a bridal car…' I said.
Eric agreed. I mean, hello, can you imagine a beaming bride, with blooming can-cans and all, climbing into a four wheel drive truck! Of all things? 'Should have used an MPV instead,' he said.
'I supposed MPVs are way more comfortable to climb into, rather than the conventional Mercedes or BMW ya?'
'Maybe, we'll see…'
It's true. Weddings are in the air. Everytime I settle down and try to relax without thinking about terrifying future bits like marriages and all, something reminds me yet again, that people will ask, and people will wonder. Last night I returned home from dinner to Mum and my cousin, pouring over the photos they took at her wedding. They were, to my horror, pointing out photos of Eric and I, and the kinds of smiles and head-tilts we should next attempt so that we'll look more 'perfect' together.
It's especially frightening when you have at least 5 weddings to attend in 2006, and 2005 hasn't even ended yet! You know, obviously, that unlike a year ago, when a relationship with a man could be just that — a relationship, and nothing more… now that you're 25 and prime for marriage, people will definitely ask, 'So when's your turn?'
But of course I worry that I won't ever, ever make it down the aisle, or my relationship with the current beau is yet another temporary phase… and these worries are all too real. But then I see the married ppl in all-too-real squabbles over house loans, and wedding packages, or marriage break-ups after just 2 years of tying the knot, and I think, 'Sheesh…'
So tell me just one thing, what exactly is the point of getting married?