It’s all the difference in the world
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I think it's so much easier to be a man.
Just think about it this way. This is what a woman has to go through:
You get born, you come into this world, and then you find out that you don't have a little dangly bit that sticks out from between your legs there. For some reason, your mama would tell you that that's a very precious bit, and you don't want anything going inside there.
That's all right. Life goes on nicely for a few years. You delight in knowing that you can wear both PINK and BLUE and no one would blink an eye, and hey, guys are ugly, and girls can wear ribbons and nice sparkly things. Girls can wear both skirts and pants, but boys can only wear pants nyek nyek.
Then you get to school, you see those guys who used to be shorter than you suddenly grow taller. And then you start to realize that things aren't so fun anymore. One day, some smart ass decides to write you a love poem, OR, tell the whole world that he's in love with you. From then on, it's a spiral way down the chute. Oh, you know it all. As long as you're in uniforms, your parents will put curfews on you, and you can see your brother walking in and out of the house at anytime he wants to. You argue, but Mum's responses are pretty much routine, 'He's a boy, dear, and you're a girl.'
You want to say, 'But what difference does it make?', but you hold back, because yes yes yes, it makes for ALL THE DIFFERENCE in the world.
And then you graduate, you work, you find a guy you love, you fall in and out of love, you go through what I am currently going through now, 'He the one? He the one? What if? What if? What if?'
If you're meant to get hitched, you do, and it's all the way through marriagehood, you know, the likes, motherhood, the worrying about your children, then your husband, whether he's gallavanting around town like a casanova again, and then you watch your kids grow up, and you worry, and you worry, and you worry. You worry that someone will pick them up one day (legally, or illegally), you worry that they don't do very well in their studies, when they're a bit younger you're worried that they'll start dating all too soon, but if they're older you worry about whether they'll ever get a good man/woman to cherish and to love… oh it's an endless, endless ordeal all the way.
For guys, things are simplified, tenfold. For instance, my bf is aware of my worrywart tendencies, and his solution is always this: 'Worry so much for what, not like it's going to change a thing.'
From what I see, the route of life is so much easier for guys, you know, you get born with an ugly stick down there, down there, and that makes for ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
I heard proof of this over my mum's conversation, with my aunt the other day. My older cousin is 28, and unattached. So the discussion came, 'Eh, when's your daughter getting married?'
I remember looking at my cousin, and he rolled his eyes and made a silly face at me.
Mum went, 'Not so soon lah. She's only 25!'
'Ya, ya, still young lah, not to worry yet. At least she has someone already. My son, aiyah… dunno what happened lah. Now at 28 still never bring a girl home. '
My turn to roll eyes at the cousin. He scowled, hehe.
Mum said, 'Well, doesn't matter lah. Can slowly look one.'
'Yeah lah, anyway, boy, its okay one lah. You worry more if she's a girl.'
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Welcome to my world.
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November 30, 2005 at 9:43 am
I totally agree it’s easier for guys…..
I am being harassed by my relatives at every family gathering about the fact that i am still technically single and at the last gathering, one of my aunts tried to console my mom by telling me “it’s not too late to start looking when she’s in her 30s”
November 30, 2005 at 10:05 am
really?.. I’m turning 25 soon and last year I think my parents start thinking that I’m gay when I didn’t bring a girl home… why do I think like that?
does “Do you like girls or not?” question rings a bell?
November 30, 2005 at 10:17 am
im proud to be a guy
November 30, 2005 at 10:35 am
Hey, woman gets to have multiple orgasm!
That, balances all the difference.
November 30, 2005 at 10:38 am
hmmm…i beg to disagree. i think the burden in life is equally shared by both men and women, in theory anyway. but i guess what differs, at the end of the day, is not the level of burden being carried but rather the general attitude of the person in question, regardless of gender. I’ve seen women thinking and behaving like men and vice versa so i believe it’s all about the attitude.
November 30, 2005 at 10:58 am
Oh but why, because men rock.
Let’s all be men then?
Better learn how to create babies on our own first..
November 30, 2005 at 11:08 am
That’s because girls have an ‘expiry date’ in menopause… Blame it on God or nature if you will, but guys have the luxury of procreating at the tender age of 70 (albeit with help of some good old tongkat ali power roots).
So… Girls have to marry before the eggs start to get ‘stale’… whereas guys, we can go ‘all life long’..
It’s unfair, i know…
November 30, 2005 at 11:09 am
Ha ha ha, I guess there IS a diff… men can’t get pregnant.
Note: The statement does not condone, recommend men to go galavanting around town.
November 30, 2005 at 11:22 am
It is unfair – I feel sorry for girls, they get period pains (well, not all of them) and periods and other stuff to contend with.
‘…you find out that you don’t have a little dangly bit that sticks out from between your legs there…’
No THAT is an example of Penis Envy!!!!
Look at the good side of that, nothing to get caught in your fly (aka Something About Mary), nothing to get kicked which incapacitates you immediately (aka a guys NUTS).
Reason guys can galavant around, is they don’t come home pregnant and embarass you in front of the neighbours. If he does get a girl pregnant, it’s just he is a POTENT BABY MAKING MACHINE SO VIRILE OF COURSE SHE GOT PREGNANT. They must have only done it once … not his fault, she seduced him. (Yeah, I know, it’s so unfair that society reacts that way!)
Then girls have the problem of BEIN PREGNANT (whether intentional or not) – how do you get a BABY out from between your legs???
[Well, Epidural's make it all so much easier - but in my mother's day they never had them. My sister swears by them - she thinks they are great!]
Plus, there is the other side of being a man – more job prospects, greater chance of promotion, his half baked ideas are worth two great ideas froma women etc etc. Yes, it’s a big generalisation, but the glass ceiling is still there for women whether guys want to admit it or not.
Other Kenny – don’t worry abouth them thinking you are gay. [Not that there is anything wrong with that]. My father used to TELL PEOPLE I was gay and ask them to feel sorry for him! [He is the loser, not me!] So it happens.
Get a girl who is a good friend, and bring them hoem to dinner as your GF … then get another one and bring them home as your new GF. Keep doing that every week.
The girls get a free meal, your parents no longer worry you are gay (They now worry you are throwing good girls away and incapable of settling down).
Same applies to any girls who’s parents are worried they are not married off yet. (Only they won’t worry you might not get married … they worry you have become a slut!)
It breaks the monotony of them always worrying about the one thing. Gives them a change – and a change is as good as a holiday!
Oh and Minishorts – I worry heaps and heaps and heaps … so it’s not a womens thing. That comes down to each persons individual nature. Some women I know never worry about their kids, others do … and same for guys.
November 30, 2005 at 1:00 pm
another guy is here
November 30, 2005 at 1:14 pm
Ah..I like Spiller’s…we get more orgasms. Duh. Imagine, men have to tahan tahan until the end…we all…no need to tahan..just go with the flowwww
November 30, 2005 at 1:16 pm
Oh my, rosalind!
November 30, 2005 at 1:18 pm
well,i do agree with the statement,guys are more easier than woman…and the MAJOR difference is man cant get pregnant….it’s like a heaven for guy and like a hell for woman….
[the other kenny]same here for my bro case…my parents is worrying bout my 21 years old bro by not having a gf rite now….the difference is they havnt think of the gay stuff yet….whereas for my case…my cousin start to suspect me as a gay lou since 2 years ago….wtf……
November 30, 2005 at 2:36 pm
oops…:neutral: ahha
November 30, 2005 at 2:47 pm
its the balance, the ying yang, the complex and the simple.
November 30, 2005 at 2:49 pm
oooohhh… feisty!!!
November 30, 2005 at 3:00 pm
this entry just come in the correct time… my neighbours were gossiping with my mom and talked about how come I dont bring girls back home and why still being single… and then i overheard this neighbour utter this gay word thingy… wtf~~
i guess this is a universal dilemma to all the single guys out there and have reached the ‘marrying’ age.
November 30, 2005 at 3:32 pm
I told you what. Women are complicated because of the bottom area thingy.
Btw…got another Vincent bloke up there who keeps commenting. How come he doesn’t call himself ‘the other Vincent’ ar?
November 30, 2005 at 3:44 pm
vincent : because it wouldn’t be original anymore isn’t it??
November 30, 2005 at 3:48 pm
vince: no worries. I know like 3 vincents so far, another one is ok. (eh this message goes out to both of you).
but i’m closer to the bitching log one lah.
November 30, 2005 at 3:51 pm
We are all the same. Just playing different roles. Men and women. Bah~!!
If you don’t like who you are, can always opt for …enhancement…
November 30, 2005 at 5:48 pm
Let’s spare a thought for those caught in between, so to speak. It must be bleeding hard for them too.
November 30, 2005 at 6:27 pm
Ah, minishorts, you are angry about the unequal treatment of women…the social rules, norms and expetations, well, I would only agree in part, because, guys also get it bad, because there are other expectations we have to meet, like the burden of saving enough money for marriage and to start a family (and when one does, the children’s education, their astronoical spending…), so those dangling things (that thing plus those…) pretty much has its own weight to carry as well (my friends who are attached with gf have this load on their minds). What’s more, men are expected to have very successful careers too, and those who fail ….sigh….so, it’s a thorny bed of roses after all.
And oh yeah, not easy also with regard to falling in love too, because most guys are generally less ‘emotionally intelligent’ than girls and struggle in first wooing girls, and then later on in giving happiness to one’s gf.
November 30, 2005 at 6:30 pm
Oops, I mean my friends have the financial worries of marriage on their mind…
Anyway, just my thoughts on the other side of the story
November 30, 2005 at 8:10 pm
I do agree that women generally has a shorter “shelf life” compared to men. The “value” of men increases as they age while it’s the reverse for women.
For us guys…any girl as gf will do but parents tend to have more expectations for their daughters. They tend to pressure their daughters to marry a rich guy or rather….a more “successful” man.
Generally speaking lah…:mrgreen:
November 30, 2005 at 9:44 pm
Hey, what are you calling “an ugly stick down there”? Mine is a glorious turbo fuel injection model!
November 30, 2005 at 9:50 pm
wahhh..so kesian aa you girls
never thought about it really
but hey we guys have it tough too
all the pressure from having a dangly thingy is pretty big too…i think :p
well anyway you r blog rocks so props for that
November 30, 2005 at 10:23 pm
everytime i waited outside the washroom for my gf. i reminded myself how lucky we guys are having the dangly thingy. pissing is so easy for guys. some guys even piss anywhere they can…. but female toilets always full and is troublesome for girls…
December 1, 2005 at 12:50 am
I agree with what dreamer idiot said, men are generally expected to carry the burden of financials of starting a family. But it might also change quite bit since people are striving for female male equality. Hmmm , maybe kua.
December 1, 2005 at 2:13 am
Awww…it’s so nice to see that many of you guys out there understand what we girls go through.
Financial worries during marriage only happen if you both are bad planners.
December 1, 2005 at 5:38 am
Haiyah, minishorts, this is suuuch a generalization. In my case, I worry about the kid, finances, how to afford to pay the bills, etc. and my dear wife is quite happy-go-lucky. It depends on your personality more than gender, I believe.
December 1, 2005 at 7:52 am
then again, it still is a little better to be a guy.
Guys don’t have to carry a baby in their womb for 9 months.
Guys wont have to experience sore breats…
Guys dont have to have PMS..
Guys dont have Period.period.
Guys wont be “sexually harrased” *not all but most*
Guys dont have to deliver a baby after 9 months and have sagging breast and considered not sexy afterwards..
….
sigh~.. But then again.. being a girl is quite fun too la~~
December 1, 2005 at 1:17 pm
yeah yeah…utterly pissed me off when people keep asking me when u getting marry ah? fucker, i ‘m back to single again, no one want to marry me lah. why everyone so furious about that? is that a big issue need to get marry so early? but my mum told me my cousin is getting marry next week and another cousin same age as me also getting marry next month. so what’s big deal now? if marriage canot give you 100% assurance of happinese what for need to get marry then? sometimes singlehood is better still, to have some space to enjoy and more options. *wink*..anyway, time will come. don’t plan so precisely, the harder destiny will come hit you. BTW, i dun think age is a matter to get marry early or later. who care huh?
December 1, 2005 at 3:18 pm
So … when AM I GETTING MARRIED?????
December 1, 2005 at 4:02 pm
dabido – will you marry me? hahahhaha
December 2, 2005 at 2:32 am
viewtru said:
Hey, what are you calling “an ugly stick down there”? Mine is a glorious turbo fuel injection model!
WAH! So powerful! I bet it goes from Zero to Finish in 3.8 seconds also arr? *tongue in cheek*
December 2, 2005 at 11:29 am
Other Kenny – lol Though you mean it in jest, it’s still the best offer I’ve had this year.
December 2, 2005 at 11:36 am
I had a long comment that turned into a blog post that fizzled out. But honestly, sure, guys lives are relatively uncomplicated. But it’s also lonelier, comparatively.
Welcome to the human condition. Being a girl sucks, being a guy sucks.