Archive for December 1st, 2005

How to say no

Dec 01, 2005 in Gender-bender

It was bound to happen anyway, so I wasn't actually surprised when Kenny pinged me, 'So when are you getting married?'

'Whaa?'

I thought it amusing. Suddenly random thoughts can lead to assumptions, but hey, I've only been asking a very common question — you don't even have to be in a serious relationship to ponder the things that I've been pondering. Why should it mean that I was considering marriage?

So today, I've decided to take a different slant altogether, and hey, you can speculate all you want. :wink:

At least, for me, I was listing down some terror-fying ways to get rid of people, and then I recalled that Michael Ooi, who's only 62% evil, came up with The Ultimate Breakup Guide earlier this year and it was a hit.

But put it this way, we're all really nice people at heart; we don't really want to hurt people, I mean, in the first place, before you got together, you tried like hell to actually make him/her belong in your life — but after a while, you find out that he/she isn't exactly the right one for you, or that circumstances just will never work themselves out, no matter how hard you try.

So comes the decision, you both just cannot be together, no matter what, and it's just got to end.

The question is. What do you do? How do you end it 'nicely' so to speak, so that it won't hurt? Well, at least, not so much, anyway.

Because I've done it before, ended it, got it ended, and hell, it both hurt like hell. And I've been wanting to dish out methods to 'sudahkannya'… in a better, more civilized way, at least. But the processes, how do you go about it? I'm not too good at it, and hell there is ONE thing that I'm definitely awful at, that's keeping to my decisions. I've done it before, I've said, 'Enough, get out!' only to call the fella up after a few days saying, 'Let's try again.'

You tell me.

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