Comments on: How to say no

By: e2wen~*

e2wen~* — Tue, 06 Dec 2005 04:30:49 +0000

Personally, I think that the best way to reduce the pain to the very least is probably to end it quick. As time goes on, the relationship either turn sour(hatred), or both parties get even mote attached to each other(sticky).

If you have a relatively strong feeling that the relationship will not last, or is bound to end somehow, hit brake and stop right there. A hunch is a hunch, women’s instincts on matters of the heart are more powerful than one can imagine.

Perhaps I sound like some rambling rue, which might be caused by my past experience, but believe me that it does no good to drag. Two months down the road and I thought of such ideas but ignored it. Eventually, everything ended four months later. (Man, I can drag)

Now, two months after the whole thing ended, I sometimes still allow myself to cry to sleep. And it’s not like we did not end it in with agreement from both parties.

Gosh, this is so long, I’m sorry for being so long-winded, but your post simply triggered some chain reaction. Lolx.

Whatever the ending may be, I wish you all the best. *hug*

By: obeliskdee

obeliskdee — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 15:01:39 +0000

i think it depends on how strong ur feelings towards each other in the relationship. If it’s not that passionate, it’s easier to get off with it. But if it’s like hmm…those cannot-live-without-each-other, it’s harder to let go.

By: CarolineL

CarolineL — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 11:50:19 +0000

It’s better to get it straight to the point, no need going around 360°. No matter how you explain, the other party will surely be hurt. Unless he/she has prepare for the day to come.

By: Erick

Erick — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 11:29:20 +0000

Hi Baby, I just got a new waterbed. What say we do it like the good ol’ times.

By: Rae

Rae — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 11:02:08 +0000

Haha, of course there’s the classic of

“It’s not you it’s me”

But obviously, that shouts “Get out of my life, I don’t want you no more”

As Edrei said, there is no best way. It always hurt, I mean, no matter what, that person had occupied a space in your heart right?

I guess the best way is to talk things through and mutually agree on it. I never say things like break up unless I really mean it, perhaps that’s the best way of turning a relationship into and on-off thing.

Then, avoid the person at all cause. At least avoid too much proximity so that the wound can heal.

By: senbai

senbai — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 10:57:52 +0000

which is why I always think that being normal friend is better. and then when the time and condition is right, get married. in that way, you don’t have to go through the gf/ bf phase. so marrying a true friend is better than marrying a gf/ bf. you don’t have to pretend/ compromise/ under pressure…etc do so many things to maintain the relationship. true friends are “maintenance free”

today we have maintenance free battery, maintenance free electrical appliances, disposable cameras, disposable contact lenses, …etc so why not have maintenance free partnership, maintenance free love affair, ~~disposable~~on-demand spouse?

just a thought

By: suanie

suanie — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 08:17:30 +0000

blah i’m a boring person, “we shouldn’t see each other anymore” works for me.

By: Darryl

Darryl — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 08:03:31 +0000

Yes, I find that such a beautiful thing in girls; often enough to notice the advantage of giving her a goodbye-fuck.

By: The other kenny

The other kenny — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 07:50:34 +0000

tell her to wear that lamb costume u bought for her and ask her to cry like one when having sex…

that would work… i think

By: KY

KY — Thu, 01 Dec 2005 07:29:29 +0000

say something like, your car is ugly, i can’t be seen sitting in it. i’m not ur gf anymore, kthxbai .