Having it focused
I thought I'd leave a piece of this.
We were being pensive over dinner the other night, I said it was a treat for him–in celebration of the new old car. New, because it's something he's just bought; old, because it's a little bit over 12 years old, and needs plenty of fixing up.
And then I told him about the coming year-up. He grinned and frowned, 'Eh, it's over, we've celebrated it!'
I didn't recall that. 'When?'
'November 15th.'
Astounded, I was. How clear he could remember? ButI remembered different–that couldn't be.
'That's not right! It's the 29th of this month, I recall it clearly. We weren't together yet!'
'Yes we were, November 15th was the day you told me we could see each other seriously, and see other people too at the same time. You said it wasn't time.'
Oh, and it was because I had just walked out of one relationship then, a little over a month before, and I didn't realize that it was actually possible to fall for another again so deeply.
Or maybe I didn't know it then that 'again' didn't quite make the cut as a descriptive.
Actually, it was for the first time.
And then we laughed, and dinner was quite amazing. What is an anniversary celebration? Quite unnecessary–we see each other every day, and yet every day it still feels as if it were the first time.
December 19th, 2005 at 9:45 am
wow im the first one !!
just wanna say.. MERRY CHRISTMAS, ms. minishorts…
December 19th, 2005 at 9:51 am
“…and yet every day it still feels as if it were the first time.”
I truly know how that feels…Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you.
Cheers!
December 19th, 2005 at 11:00 am
Did Yoda attack your gramma?
[Yes, I know you did it deliberately!]
‘we see each other every day, and yet every day it still feels as if it were the first time.’
Possible problems with your hippocampus (part of the brain which is used to store memories), or Temporal lobe (front part of the brain above the eyes) malfunction giving you de ja vu type experiences/feelings.
Suggestion - see a neurologist - possilbe electric shock therapy needed.
When you’re cured you’ll see him, and you’ll realise it’s same old same old every day … just like everyone else on the planet!
[Yeah, I know ... somedays, I just know too much crap!!!]
December 19th, 2005 at 11:09 am
I’m glad you still feel like that ms. Claire…
feeling nervous, sweaty palms, butterfly in the stomach… ahhhh… the beauty of being in love..
the feeling that I have not felt for a really long time..
December 19th, 2005 at 11:17 am
Am very very happy for you
Here’s wishing you both a very Blessed Xmas
December 19th, 2005 at 12:14 pm
“and yet every day it still feels as if it were the first time.”
you have to ask his name and such every day? that’s dreadful. =/
December 19th, 2005 at 1:07 pm
“and yet every day it still feels as if it were the first time.”
beautiful…just beautiful
December 19th, 2005 at 1:56 pm
That’s lovely. My 1st anniversary is just days ahead too. How time flies huh? It still feels as if it were the first time, the lovey dovey moment, the sweetness. Couple of years later, I’d be happy if we don’t quarrel.
December 19th, 2005 at 4:26 pm
Oh goshie…it’s so sweet……
*melted*:smile:
December 19th, 2005 at 5:46 pm
Couples. Humbug.
December 19th, 2005 at 6:31 pm
KY - I see you’re in the Hippocampus problem camp and not the Temporal lobe problem camp.
FA - hahahaha! You have a queue of men lined up and you’re complaining!!! Bwahahahahaaa! Just chose someone. Most people on the planet wish they had your problem!
It’s Xmas - make someone happy!
December 19th, 2005 at 7:54 pm
Anyone who can walk out of and into another relationship within such short span of time (1 month) obviously doesn’t take relationships/love seriously or has cheated on the partner, or allowed oneself to fall for another person while in a relationship, getting spannared by other guys/girls.
Sometimes I wonder if people got together out of true love or just afraid of peer pressure of being seen as unattached therefore giving the impression of unwanted stock.
You’re not ready for marriage, and if you ever get into one, it’s only because of family and peer pressure.
December 19th, 2005 at 10:43 pm
hah. good to know you two are happy
December 20th, 2005 at 12:18 am
flowerheart,
why the unnecessary comment?
sometimes i wonder why cynics like you act the way you do. maybe it’s because you have never fallen in love, or maybe too ugly to have anyone to fall in love with you, thus, that makes you a bitter person.
everytime you see someone happy, you just want to spoil the happiness to make yourself feel superior. it’s like a form of therapy for you ain’t it?
please, when someone is happy, either say something nice or don’t say anything at all. then, maybe, just MAYBE, you won’t be such an ugly person and you will actually fall in love and not be such a cynic.
sorry if i offended you, but i just had to let that out.
December 20th, 2005 at 1:07 am
So sweet …
December 20th, 2005 at 1:51 am
Dear Flowerheart,
Obviously when you said if a person can walk out and into another relationship within a month doesn’t take the relationship seriously or has cheated, you were speaking from experience. Let me assure you, not everyone is like you.
If you’re still holding on after a month and not willing to give love a second chance when it hits you in the face just because you think one month is too ’short’ for griefing or because you think you have to be single for at least three months after to show how serious you were about the relationship, you seriously have some letting go issues.
You can’t stop love just because of how you think relationship should be or should not be. There are no rules when it comes to love. When you stop yourself from loving someone just because of the stupid rules, you clearly do not love yourself enough.
December 20th, 2005 at 2:08 am
Rebound Relationships
A “rebound relationship” is one in which a person becomes overly quick to commit to a new partner after having experienced an upsetting breakup or divorce. People who have breakups and then immediately involved themselves with someone else seem to feel the need to prove to themselves they are worthy of love and affection. They may miss the comfort and affection of a regular relationship. But whatever the reason is, it is a selfish reason, one that is based on serving the self esteem and satisfying feeling of personal worth. “Someone loves me and needs me.” It can also be to affirm “I wasn’t at fault in the breakup, this relationship will prove that.” Most of these rebound relationships are not permanent, and they can be even more destructive than the earlier breakup.
December 20th, 2005 at 2:58 am
So sweet. ^___^
Congratz & wish you two a loooooooooooooooong nice future together. ^_^
December 20th, 2005 at 8:34 am
wah i didn’t know healing periods and dates WERE so important to define ‘love’. blek.
Thanks folks, and especially to flowerheart who is obviously concerned.
December 20th, 2005 at 8:51 am
Flowerheart: Can I add something to your “illustrious” comment?
Did you know people who see their exes get into relationships soon after the break-up are resentful, jealous and insecure? They fail to understand that 1) different people have different healing times and ‘mourning’ periods, 2) people don’t think like them, and 3) love doesn’t care about how long you have mourned.
I suspect that your talk of rebound relationships point to something, a memory or whatever it may be, that Minishorts has brought up.
Btw, cynicism is hardly an endearing attitude neither is it positive.
MS: I find it healthy and even wonderful that you still feel this way after a year of dating. Because we all know that the tough periods come right after the drop of ze honeymoon period. *hugs* So happy for you.
December 20th, 2005 at 9:15 am
Congrats! It’s definitely something worth celebrating. Here’s your insulin.