Where to eat?
Eric says I fit perfectly into the Category 2 of women, 'The Anything Lor… girl' according to this video (thanks Paul!).
As much as I've to admit my guilt, I am not too happy with the entirety of that opinion. Oh you know that conversation from generations ago, the one where the man very courteously asks 'What do you want to eat?'
'Anything.'
'Would you like to have Japanese?'
'Nah, I don't feel like Japanese.'
'Would you like Thai then?'
'Errr… I have an ulcer.'
'Ok, let's go to a hawker centre, you can choose from anything you want.'
'Don't want lah, I don't like the crowd.'
'Errr, then what do you want to eat?'
'Anything.'
It's overdone, it's repeated, and all the MID have told me before, 'I wish there were a restaurant called 'Anything Restaurant.'
I think both sides of the gender are to be blamed for this mind-boggling situation. It's like this, most guys can't be bothered to think about a place to have a date PRIOR to the date, and then they leave the decision making to the girl. But the girl usually hopes that the guy was romantic enough to decide on the dating place first, she wants a surprise (most girls love surprises). Unfortunately, it's a futile hope.
Then again, how come people don't ask about the other side of the coin, like, why can't guys make the decision, take you to the place, and surprise you. As far as I know, I've never heard of a girl who isn't thrilled when her man takes her to a place where he's already reserved a table, and pre-ordered the dishes. He doesn't even have to order her favourite foods, neither does he have to know that his girl HATES eating cream of celery (I had this the other day and it sucked), but it's the thought that counts. The ingenuity of actually PLANNING out a date prior to taking her out is what increases his sex appeal, rather than the usual option of picking her up, and then asking her, 'What do you want to eat?'
Repeat the conversation, but instead of 'What do you want to eat?' Just sit her in the passenger seat, and tell her, 'I'm not sure whether you're going to like this restaurant, but you tell me after the meal all right?'
My first date was fun, a long long time ago, that date where I sort of knew he was going to ask me whether I'd be interested in a serious relationship with him. That was a date where he sat me in his car, and instead of asking, 'What do you want to eat?', he told me this, 'I'm taking you to this restaurant, it's nothing classy okay?'
I so happen to like a man who can make decisions, mmkay?
At the restaurant, he asked me first, 'Do you take fish?'
I nodded, and he turned to the captain, 'Patin, steamed.'
And then he turned to me, 'Any vegetables you don't take?'
'Err… I don't like bitter gourd.'
'All right. Choy-tam okay for you?'
'Sounds good.'
And he told the captain, 'Stir-fried choytam.'
Then he asked me once more, 'Tofu?'
'Yeah sounds okay.'
'How'd you like it?'
'Urm, any way's fine by me.'
And then to the captain, 'Hot-plate tofu.'
Just like that, the order was made, quickly, and in a very sexy decisive way. I still think it was a damn sexy way of taking charge, and despite the unromantic atmosphere in that typical Chinese Tai-chow restaurant, that first date still goes down in my memory bank as one of the greatest dates of all time.
I guess after a while, the guy gets tired of taking the reins, and resort to very un-macho-like questions like, 'So what would you like to eat?'
Eh, all it takes is a rephrasing of the question, and something simple like this, 'Can I take you somewhere nice?'
Of course the catch is that you have to decide on that somewhere nice before you ask her, okay? You can HELP HER decide on what to order once you're both there. And even if the food turns out tasting horrible, fret not. Usually we females are too nice to complain about bad dinners out. The most we'll do is laugh about silly dining choices, and that date will be one to remember for life.
January 23rd, 2006 at 3:43 pm
very useful posting today…esp for us men
January 23rd, 2006 at 3:44 pm
I’m in the same category. KY hates me.
January 23rd, 2006 at 3:50 pm
As a guy, I would like to justify asking “Where you want to eat?” as a relatively low risk manouver.
We have had one too many girls bitching about this is not good and that is not good about this or that restaurant that we’ve gotten anal about it…
So, the next time a man asks you “Where you wanna eat?” it would help that you think about our traumatic past experiences with the girl that got pissed at everyone because the waiter got her order wrong…
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January 23rd, 2006 at 4:48 pm
So, it’s proven. Men are better decision maker.
Anyway, this is very helpful. Cheers.
January 23rd, 2006 at 5:41 pm
There is a restaurant called “Anything La”
It’s in Taman Tun, same row as Guardian Pharmacy.
It’s not the greatest, passable though.
January 23rd, 2006 at 5:56 pm
Aya…anywhere also can la.
January 23rd, 2006 at 6:24 pm
Mmmm…Interesting point. Girls still do want to be charmed…I’ll keep that if I ever do think of going ona date.
January 23rd, 2006 at 6:32 pm
I think many girls are in that category. Me included. And yeah! The kind of guy you first dated is sexy!
January 23rd, 2006 at 6:40 pm
ah…the wussies’dilemma
January 23rd, 2006 at 7:23 pm
1 of the reasons why i like my man is bcos he always decides what to order or what i eat. which is fantastic! always like my man to be incharge.
January 23rd, 2006 at 7:49 pm
ooo gimme a man who leads.. *sexay*
January 23rd, 2006 at 8:54 pm
HAHA! I’m category 2 as well, I dont like to decide.
but the only difference is, I will accept any suggestions. I just don’t like deciding.
January 23rd, 2006 at 8:55 pm
oh and yes, that first date thing does sound sexy.
don’t know - 1 part stubborn, 2 parts hee hee hee, when i read that.
January 23rd, 2006 at 10:07 pm
Actually I think the “where do you wanto eat” is a given for guys to use becoz most of us is afraid in tormenting the girls we go out with. We are always been thought to be “considerate” to girls and always let the girls have the 1st decision (as the saying goes “ladies first…”).
Lets say if we were to make the decision, most of the time we will screw it up and the girl will feel tat we are not considerate to them …
like on anniversary day (its coming up, so guys .. make it a good place kay..) , birthdays and other special occasions .. during those days the guys (or most guys) will try to be extra special and more commanding.. becoz .. well… THEY HAVE TOO 
but ofcoz we guys should try to take a more active in role in making decision
As you can see, what we do is only to please the girls, and we are ofcoz scared to fail to please the girls we like
January 23rd, 2006 at 10:36 pm
Category 2 people are so mah fan. I much prefer Category 3 women.
January 23rd, 2006 at 11:08 pm
But I thought you like eating me :cry::cry:
January 23rd, 2006 at 11:31 pm
i am gonna make my man read this post!
January 23rd, 2006 at 11:41 pm
Heh I find I’m actually quite an anything-la kinda guy myself. And actually would take soundings from everyone (if group outing) before making a suggestion.
But yeah that sounds like something important to remember, still being able to ‘just decide all’ instead of just falling into a rut.
January 24th, 2006 at 12:28 am
I call asking my date their preference as being “curteous”. Or would the girls rather we go to a cheap mamak all the time? That would be the No.1 choice if I couldn’t care enough to ask.
January 24th, 2006 at 12:44 am
“Now, would you prefer (a) Restaurant A or (b) hawker centre B?”
That would set the tone for the date. Although its a form of restriction, giving her two or max three choices gives you a couple of things, which includes (a) you’ve thought about it, type of food/venue/class, (b) you still want to give her a democratic say, not autocratic (c) hmm.. anything else?
But that’s just me. The key is to understand what kinda girl she is, be she (a) chin-chai or (b) highly selective (which in my case would mean that she’s highly unlikely to go out with me anyway! lol).
January 24th, 2006 at 12:53 am
*Eyes Eric’s comment*
January 24th, 2006 at 2:09 am
Very insightful entry. Thanks.
January 24th, 2006 at 2:24 am
January 24th, 2006 at 3:34 am
what!!! dates?
the rules are not to waste your hard earned
money and time on any woman till you lay them!!
even after getting laid,let your women to
come and pick you up for further dates!!
women goes out dating the nice boys and sleep around with us all the time..
KNN,it works magically for us all the time ..:razz:
January 24th, 2006 at 8:36 am
i’m an “anything” girl too. i guess it’s not so bad if the guy realises i’m struggling to make a choice and rescues me by making an effort to think of someplace nice, but when i end up making a decision…i know it’s not logical to think that way, but i get a kind of sinking feeling. makes sense to you? hmm.
January 24th, 2006 at 9:17 am
i seem to have got myself a stalker who impersonates my bf.
January 24th, 2006 at 9:50 am
eat what? erm.. u like le.. ahah
January 24th, 2006 at 10:37 am
great post! thx!
January 24th, 2006 at 11:21 am
ok la okla.. will do that on date… just don’t bitch about it when you find the place i brought to suck ass……
January 24th, 2006 at 3:00 pm
For the first few dates, I usually don’t care about what to eat for dinner because I won’t eat much anyways. The reason is I want to make a good first impression by not pigging out and scaring the guy away with my appetite.
After the relationship is stable, the bf still have to decide where to eat because I would have way too many cravings like ‘I feel like eating Japanese today’ …. ‘Wait wait, I think I want Thai’ …. ‘On second thoughts, I saw this commercial on TV about 2 for $3 cheeseburger’ …. the list goes on.
January 24th, 2006 at 9:27 pm
I am your boyfriend
I lurve Minishorts
muacks!
January 26th, 2006 at 11:44 am
This post was very very helpful…I added a link to this post in one of my posts, and my boyfriend read it! Duly noted
Thanks a lot
February 1st, 2006 at 3:41 pm
it’s actually a v thin line between being in charge n being bossy. Guys muz really thread v carefully. :$