All you want, is a bit of attention
Mr Hobo, the latest Dr Love in town, has conveniently classified women as a class of nit-picking, power-loving, attention-seeking brats who are mere examiners whose actual mission in relationships is setting crazy tests for their boyfriends, husbands, and lovers.
How 'apt', seeing that Valentine's Day is just around the corner, so instead of taking the topic of Love to great heights and talk about it in celebrating hues of happiness and gooey stickiness, Mr Hobo has seemingly, successfully, diminished the mystic aura of love-relationships into nothing but a 'Apply And See If You Will Pass' phase, that will never seem to end, mind you.
In particular, this singular paragraph that stuck out like a sore thumb in the midst of all his self-appreciating, over-inflated, ego-boosted insight, entitled The Test, for lack of a more creative title. But before that, I present to you, the damning evidence:
Women are like spoiled children. They are self-focused, insecure and irrational. They crave drama and games. They demand constant attention, reassurance, and above all, power in relationships. And, like children, who ceaselessly push limits to see just how much they can get away with from their parents, women relentlessly test men.
True? Not true?
In his words, Abdul Hobo also puts on display an exhibit of examples where women test the men, including the following:
* Canceling or changing plans at the last minute.
* Not returning phone calls (even though she's interested in you).
* Finding fault with your clothes, hair, car, etc. and pressuring you to change them.
* Pouting when you want to spend time with your buddies.
* Bringing up the dreaded "Where do you think this relationship is going?" question.
* Acting bratty, bitchy, demanding, dramatic, picky, or manipulative to see if you will put with it.
The remaining part of the list is found on his site, so please head over to check it out.
So of course, shouldn't Minishorts, being the type of woman who'll fight to death her right to defend her gender (although sometimes, she admits, because she's female, the guys will find her words skewed to her benefit), be one who is seething at these careless words? Ought not I be obliged to write a long post refuting his points… which I am joyfully admitting, as with most opinionated clauses, some parts true, some parts not?
I could have plenty to say, but I'm laughing out in glee.
But that is besides the point of my post, other than clarifying that this post really isn't one to engage in a Battle of the Sexes with Abdul. Mix.FM has been having that Breakfast Show series for several years now, and the Battle of the Sexes has yet to really intrigue me… I've come to a point of saturation, and all I say, occasionally, is, 'What the heck man?'
Well Mr Hobo, I'm sure the world can see your post for what it really is. A test for people to pick it out so that you might gather some attention over here. Your post on Lies was far more intellectual, at least, it was original and functional.
This one? It's just an excuse of 'Read me here Read me here', but because I think you're a pretty good blogger, and more people should know about you, I'm obliging, and feigning test failure, and pimping you today, because your previous blog posts are individual gems demanding re-reads.
But, surely you're not about to add yourself to the embarassing statistic of ego-inflated attention-seeking men in the world, right? But oh, I forgot. You are one. The Test, proves just that. Men like you like their egoes to be stroked. And if that becomes impossible, they'd resort to doing ANYTHING just to get the attention of females. Even if it means insulting an entire sex in a single blog post which attempts in being humourous falls flat in its face.
I must say it's a disappointment to see a promising writer giving in to reader-pressure. Gah.
February 10th, 2006 at 12:04 pm
A big HAHAHA…he must have met or seen too few females to have generalized them into the 6 silly characteristics above.
February 10th, 2006 at 1:52 pm
oi minishorts sluts, dun get on my back and use vincent bitching blog as ur human shield, he can do jack to me i tell u….u have been in so many mans so ur pussy is itchified is it? so now infected onto ur mouth? u better get off my back or my bf and i gonna get a spade to scratch ur itchified pussy….
poor eric dun wan get involved with ur quarrelsome character, so u using online vincent as ur human shield..ur goddamn frustated cunts…ptooooiii!
60.48.49.228 :If it makes you happy to say stupid things, then fine by me, thanks for visiting my site, glad to be of service.
February 10th, 2006 at 1:55 pm
Women are spoilt, so what? I am still in love with women..
February 10th, 2006 at 2:27 pm
like i mentioned before…
women.
can’t live with them.
can’t live without them either…
February 10th, 2006 at 4:04 pm
guys and women have different point of views on the opposite gender.
Why we never figure out what the other gender think? who cares, because it is point that pull us in this thing called… love.
As you are saying that mr hobo here give in to public’s demand.. well human is still human. However intelligent they writes, there are time that they’ll write silly things.
February 10th, 2006 at 6:55 pm
wei… ur blog too many words ler…
bored to read.
i read fire angle’s blog better, got pic and video clip.
February 10th, 2006 at 7:21 pm
I think he was just differentiating them from men who are a class of nit-picking, power-loving, attention-seeking brats who are mere examiners whose actual mission in relationships is setting crazy tests for their girlfriends, wives and lovers.
So, now we know the difference.
I’ll give you some examples of what men do
* Canceling or changing plans at the last minute.
* Not returning phone calls (even though he’s interested in you).
* Finding fault with your clothes, hair, car, etc. and pressuring you to change them.
* Pouting when you want to spend time with your girlfriends.
* Bringing up the dreaded “Where is the remote?” question.
* Acting bratty, bitchy, demanding, dramatic, picky, or manipulative to see if you will put with it.
So as we can see, there are clear and defined differences.
February 11th, 2006 at 2:06 am
are u free this V-day? I’m free
February 11th, 2006 at 8:16 am
I think this ‘Professor Hobo’ has either:
1. Had a few really really bad relationships and met the wrong women. OR
2. Never had ANY real relationship, but choose to be all theoretical about it.
Note I have had good experiences in regards to friendships/relationships with women. Sure, there’s the occasional bitch here and there, but all it all… it’s been good.
To me, being so one-sidedly biased seems to me that he can be thrown in the latter category #2. Being what screams out to me as such a hypothetical and theoretical post on his site, leads me to believe that he has had less than adequate experience with relationships.
By the way… you might already know: I hate stereotypes.
February 11th, 2006 at 10:10 am
I agree with the rest, this ‘Professor Hobo’ must have seen very few women in his life! As V’s Day’s approaching, he’s writing this entry to give himself an excuse for not having ANYONE during that occasion. Poor thing…
February 11th, 2006 at 3:56 pm
i suspect hobo’s revelation struck a chord because some women recognised themselves in that list. the truth hurts.
February 11th, 2006 at 4:59 pm
I love you dabido!!
February 11th, 2006 at 6:46 pm
S-Kay - *BLUSHES*
February 11th, 2006 at 10:36 pm
Hmm… seems V-day is becoming D-day in the battle of sexes…haha
). But no matter how “bad” they are, I will always love them !!!
Well, females can be troublesome (that’s y I need to draft out a Men’s Charter in my blog
February 12th, 2006 at 1:27 pm
vincent could be right, this professor hobo could’ve met the wrong women, but then again, think of it this way - if a girl is pretty and she’s been told she’s pretty all her lives, don’t you think that somehow, somewh-, she would think that she can use this to exert control over a guy?
a girl that does not test a guy probably has severe low self confidence or she’s really into the guy. other than that, girls will test ALL the time, which is what you can call …. a power struggle.
most guys didn’t realize that, gave in, and gets stepped all over. and IMHO, he’s right, the way to deal with it is to stop it before it starts.
i don’t think he’s submitting himself to reader-pressure. i think that’s his analysis and i find it pretty authentic.
February 13th, 2006 at 8:33 am
Ryuu, well… isn’t what you say “stereotyping” then? Notions that A girl could have done it to MOST guys? Not ALL girls who are pretty would do that to a man.
I sincerely believe how two people treat each other, and are being treated in any form of relationship/friendship, is a also an accumulation of ’signals’ of over time. This be it through direct verbal communication, or the more subtle form of body language/meta messages.
I hope you get my point. What Mr Hobo’s finger seems to be pointing at, is EVERY woman, and I think that is pretty unfair. Why I am saying this, is because the attitudes of generalizing have given me quite a bit of agony, from lost opportunities in a career, cross-cultural tensions, and broken relationships.
February 13th, 2006 at 8:57 am
well vincent, to stereotype again at a larger scope, every human tend to generalize, as do you (as you mentioned), and i’m just human; at the same time i don’t see a reason to hide my “weakness” or tendencies as a human.
but this is how we work, we generalize, we stereotype, we group information together and make connections of them to make this complex world of everything seemed simple and easy to comprehend. it’s how our brains work, it’s how it’s built, err, at least that’s what the scientists say. i won’t go so much into the details as i’m no expert, but this is from what i’ve read so far.
and what’s so shameful about girls wanting to test guys? they want to know that they’ve got a good catch, and the tests are just one of the method to see if the guy will live up to it in the long run.
just because mr. hobo generalized, and certain girls took offence at it, do we have to .. errm, forgive my language, screw the whole article and analyze the generalization at a microscopic detail? the gist of the article is not on how bratty or how attention seeking are the girls, but the gist is on HOW to deal with it.
but i digress.
generalization is oh so true. girls are bratty. girls want attention.
guys like sports.
girls like shopping.
February 13th, 2006 at 1:16 pm
Erm… I don’t like sports.
February 13th, 2006 at 2:24 pm
Hobo: i think i’m pretty free… send me a mail and i’ll see what we can do. Err. THIS IS NOT A TEST.
February 14th, 2006 at 11:43 am
Men like you like their egoes to be stroked. And if that becomes impossible, they’d resort to doing ANYTHING just to get the attention of females.
Mini, isnt the same true for SOME women also?