And why should I not be waiting?
No. It hasn't lost my attention that people are noticing this.
'You are waiting for Eric to propose to you, aren't you?'
I did not deliberately ignore the question. Oh come on, of course you know the truth already. The answer to that question, is yes and no. And then the add-on, 'What kind of question is that?'
Crap. Utter. Crap.
I think it's utterly stupid right? I mean anybody in serious relationship would have considered the question of marriage as a sign of commitment before, and there is COMPLETELY nothing wrong in hoping, right? What is so SPECIAL and DISCUSS-ABLE, or GOSSIP-ABLE about the fact that 'Yes minishorts is hoping for Eric to propose to her soon, she keeps on wanting to get married.'
Oh come on, I'd not be in a relationship at all if it were just for fucks. Because God as my witness I am not the kind of girl who gets together with a guy just for fucks!
I mean what you want to do with my answer? Of course I'm waiting for him to propose. Of course I am not waiting for him to propose. Like what good will it possibly do for you, if I told you 'yes'. And if I said 'no', would it make a fucking difference to you?
Come on lah, have some sense can or not? Anyone of you in a relationship? One that actually means something to you, one that you have REALLY commited your everything into. Or to put it romantically, one that you've put your heart into?
Heck even if you're not in a relationship, what fucking good will my response give you? THRILLS? Cheap right? Hear me say yes or no also can go bumpbumpbump. That's what thrills are all about right?
And come on, even if I were waiting for Eric to propose to me, (to which my answer is of course yes, and no of course not), I'm not from the school that concurs with that 'He proposed, I'm finally fulfilled' opinion. Marriage is not the end (cliche alert!), it is but the beginning of other things to come. Is it not so?
So yeah, stop asking. I am waiting. I am not. I guess the fact that I do hope that one day he will propose to me gives you an idea of how seriously I'm treating this relationship. The commitment I am putting to this relationship with Eric is very important to me, as he is very dear to my heart, and I do want to spend a lifetime with this person. But then, to all the men I've dated before, I waited for you to do so in the very same way too, except it was in the past. This hope for commitment is the kind of respect and honour I would give to any serious relationship I am in. You should not ask for more.
You really should not ask anymore.
March 1st, 2006 at 4:12 pm
or else.. ?
March 1st, 2006 at 4:19 pm
Love is of course always changing. There is no one (permanent) state of deep mutual attraction in which two people is forever involved.
As an emotion, love is mobile and can change quite easily to anger or hatred, and back again.
March 1st, 2006 at 4:34 pm
yes i get asked about that a lot too.. it’s annoying right??? like, gosh.. so sebok!
March 1st, 2006 at 5:19 pm
But that’s the way it goes, on a blog.
You engage complete strangers, it’s only inevitable that stupid, ask-for-the-sake-of-commenting type of questions will get asked.
Nothing beats a withering glare of “And you are imagining that I’d even care about your existence, what more entertain your question?” in real life.
March 1st, 2006 at 5:26 pm
and why, pray tell, can’t you propose to eric someday?
March 1st, 2006 at 6:20 pm
Don’t you think you’re getting too angry over a silly question like that? Maybe the person who wrote that meant it in jest; a harmless tease.
March 1st, 2006 at 6:22 pm
because you’re not a waitress mah…duh
March 1st, 2006 at 7:25 pm
you could put a blog entre
“Eric, will you marry me”
Take the initiative! Be goal driven! The ends justify the means….
any guys who got proposed to instead of just being the proposer?
March 1st, 2006 at 7:52 pm
ONE day, he sure will proposed one la.
How is he supposed to answer to your readers if he don’t?
Slowly, eventually it will get to the 5th gear. Now only, say 2nd or 3rd gear but who cares?
It’s the outcomes that all it matters!!
March 2nd, 2006 at 8:38 am
Wow, people still tease you with that question? I’ve stopped that long time already lor….
March 2nd, 2006 at 9:49 am
Who doesn’t get irritated by that question?
March 2nd, 2006 at 10:41 am
I hope Eric is reading this…
March 2nd, 2006 at 1:19 pm
In every serious r/s, it is a matter of WHEN and not WHO we are going to marry !!!!
So Minishorts, I think u’re absolutely rite abt “waiting” …. orelse, there’s not much pt is this r/s, rite?
March 2nd, 2006 at 5:45 pm
i totally agreed with u. it’s a stupid question and it’s annoying.
March 2nd, 2006 at 6:11 pm
Hi minishorts, many marriages don’t start with a proposal in the first place… when the time is right, it’s just an “automatically natural” next thing to do, and u guys will eventually talk abt it openly…without waiting for him (or u) to propose.