The conversations we have
You know sometimes I really wonder what goes through that mind of his. Granted, I am NOT an easy person to fall in love with, neither am I the perfect girlfriend who'll help someone breeze through a relationship. Perhaps it's all well that most relationships aren't built on a bed of roses, but sometimes, I think it takes immense patience to be with someone who happens to be a blogger, well-known for all the wrong reasons.
Sometime we have Gold-quality conversations, the types that you'll remember forever and ever, and you'll keep tiny folders of these logs in your mind's HDD, and sometimes, rewind the lines over, and over, again, when you need that reminder that, well, he really cares for me.
And of course, you keep memories of the ugly snippets too, the ones that make you think, if he loves me why he does this to me.
So we go through cycles of these, again and again, and in recent months, I've learnt not to be so quick to respond to other people. I don't know why, but somehow, recently, I tend to take a longer time in providing a response, and occasionally, you'd think I'm pondering other things before providing a calculated remark. It's not necessarily a bad thing, all too often I've found myself regretting the words I spew whenever I say them too quickly, and usually if I consider my sentences first, the peace is maintained. Hey I'm learning here, it's hard to change bad habits, but I think this is a good step.
So anyway just yesterday, we were talking about something pretty hilarious over the phone, and then midway through, there was a pregnant pause as I stopped to consider what I should say first. He cut in before I could blurt it out, 'Eh you're not thinking about blogging this, are you?'
'Huh?'
'Yeah you're going to blog this. Again. Oh no.'
'Eh no. I don't blog everything lah.'
'Yes you do.'
'No I don't. I didn't blog about xxx and I didn't blog about yyy. So I'm not going to blog about zzz.'
'Hah. Well, just in case. And you were going to say?'
'I forgot.'
I know it's hard dating a blogger, but we have our moments, and we try not to talk about this (in)significant part of my life. After all, the other parts are far more important.
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Oh, and the short snippets I have with other people.
minishorts says:
who the FUCK is applepie
minishorts says:
suddenly go and accuse me of shit
minishorts says:
why would i use 'anonymous' to drop a comment
ET says:
dunno
ET says:
….
minishorts says:
i'm not so free to do this shit lah, idiots man
ETsays:
man, next theyre gonna accuse you of contacting aliens and commanding them to attack earth
minishorts says:
hahahhah that's good one
minishorts says:
TROLLS!!!!! ATTACK!!!!!
ET says:
gee we should blog bout this
ET says:
only i think the end result would be worse
ET says:
but damn..it would have been damn fun
minishorts says:
don't care
minishorts says:
end result worse mah worse lah
minishorts says:
it shows them how pathetic these ppl are.
March 16th, 2006 at 11:43 am
you’re blogging about whether to blog … you’re cute
March 16th, 2006 at 12:20 pm
aren’t every adults are the same? we do need a brief moment to think of the words we are going to speak out? i don;t feel tat’s weird unless the person ur speaking to is over sensitive.
March 16th, 2006 at 1:13 pm
hrmm. maybe dating a blogger does makes your bf feel more cautious with everything he says. hehehe. i don’t usually blog personal stuff but if that so happens, keeping them anonymous is the way to go.
March 16th, 2006 at 2:05 pm
Dating a blogger is fine. Dating a blogger that blogs about everything which you think is personal but she doesn’t think so, now that’s a very fine line there.
Not all bloggers blog about their lives. But when they border on matters such as relationships and arguments with each other… of course the non-blogger spouse will not like it. It’s like you don’t respect the relationship enough over your blog.
You give the impression that your blog is more important than your mate. Of course the poor sod will be pissed and angry.
It’s like telling the world about what’s going on and disrespecting the relationship.
Personally, I would never date a blogger that blogs about her relationships and her bf.
A fine line must be drawn there, you don’t want opportunists to come in and wreck havoc at the relationship when it’s at it’s lowest point.
March 16th, 2006 at 2:36 pm
Observer: by opportunists, you mean people like you right?
maybe you don’t intend to do so but some people can urm, unintentionally be annoying even by not trying, but hell, you’re a little bit better this time, than the last time when you were attacking my other reader and her life. so applause to that.
how long have you been reading my blog anyway, one week or so? i forgot to welcome you to my ‘very public’ world since the last, you know, visit where you were attacking my other readers. i’m sorry i gave you the impression my blog is more important than my mate, but really, you flatter yourself on your self-imagined knowledge of me and my friends. but thank you very much for your concern anyway.
March 16th, 2006 at 3:31 pm
Personal blogs are what they are…personal. Who’s to say what should or should not be written? Because at the end of it, it isn’t what you say that matters, it’s how you said it and why you said it. The rest is pretty much left to intepretation.
March 16th, 2006 at 3:57 pm
Observer : Is there a blogger out there who blogs just about her relationship and her bf only? Gawd. Do ppl even read it? LOL
Imagine this, “Today, I argued with my BF over whether the candy have expired or not. He fisted his way into the bag and gobbled a whole load of maybe-expired candies” LOL
Anyway, the bf is the opposite of yours Mini. Recently, everytime when we come across something funny or dumb OR thought provoking while we’re out together, he’d go,
“Eh, you must blog about this and see how your readers respond to it. I bet got alot of dumb comments wan. Just like the Amber Chia ones. Aiyah, you stopped blogging already..wasted”
I think where the readers think the line should be drawn does not matter as long as you and your other half understands where THE line should be drawn.
And I don’t think it’s that easy for a stranger to leave a comment and attempt to wreck a relationship (even at the lowest point of it). If so, then I guess the relationship was weak from the start and the two person involved are such weak minded people to be easily influenced by a mere stranger’s words. Even if it’s not because of the stuffs she blogs, other things would probably wreck the rship sooner or later.
And like what Edrei said, I for example LOVE to blog about stuffs that happen to me and yes, most of them involves my other half but the point is not the stuffs on the surface that you read but the meaning behind the whole entry, which not everyone are able to interpret it the way the blogger would like them to (unfortunately).
March 16th, 2006 at 5:21 pm
Which would you choose?
Your blog or your relationship?
Seriously just curious.
March 17th, 2006 at 1:43 am
tis show u r de same as them….a pathetic lame ass. tsk tsk tsk