Tough vow
Saturday, May 13th, 2006 @ 9:05 am | Diary-writer
It is really, extremely difficult to remain celibate until marriage. Values are dying, and hormones are raging, and this option sometimes borders on becoming impossible.
BUT I MUST PERSEVERE. I MUST.
May 13th, 2006 at 10:06 am
just do it.
May 13th, 2006 at 10:24 am
IMHO - don’t sweat it.
When you are old and haggard you wouldn’t want be thinking “Should I have or shouldn’t I have … ?”. And by then it will be too late to do anything.
May 13th, 2006 at 10:50 am
Values arn’t dying, values are changing.
May 13th, 2006 at 11:12 am
Agreed!, Values are not dying, it’s evolving.. (as how religion should evolve with time).
No more of “Back during Papa and Mama times, where got such thing as etc etc”…!!
Our job as the next generation should be to reduce the generation gap so that old generation understand what is taboo and what’s not in the new generation. Because we darn well know what they can accept and what they can’t..
May 13th, 2006 at 11:46 am
Umm….aren’t you allowed to DIY under the celibacy rule?
May 13th, 2006 at 11:47 am
Life is always much more meaningful and less complicated when we start going with the flow and living with what we’re doing rather than fighting it off and making things much more complicated.
As if we need more of that.
May 13th, 2006 at 12:04 pm
edrei: my dear ,obviously you KNOW what i mean when I say that it means much more than ‘fighting off’ hormonal urges. it’s also about other factors, which combined, makes this ‘vow’ more meaningful than that version that you pointed out.
May 13th, 2006 at 12:42 pm
Mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal sex.
Those will be good enough to fend off those hormonal urges.
Anything to induce orgasms and you’ll reduce the risk of vaginal penetration.
So if he’s horny, jerk him off till he cums.
If you’re horny, ask him to jerk you off till you cum.
May 13th, 2006 at 12:50 pm
minishorts: i totally respect and honour your commitment to staying pure till marriage. i’ve committed to the same vow, and yes, the rewards are far greater than what can be seen now. it’s going to be so worth it, when the right time comes (after the ‘i dos’, or course)
and i seirously believe that he will respect you even more because of your values. God’s looking down and smiling at you too.
So keep it up! Set at example.. cos you also know la, this blogosphere doesn’t have that many people as influential as you who would publicly declare their vow and their stands.
*salutes*
you go girl!
May 13th, 2006 at 1:53 pm
Aiya if you don’t want to have actual vaginal sex then ok lor.
But a girl who wouldn’t even jerk you off or engage in other orgasm inducing activity, very the sien one you know.
Must test and try out first mar, otherwise how you know whether you’re both sexually compatible or not.
Who knows later after married liao, she don’t want to give head, and some more she lie down in bed like dead fish, die lor… married a frigid stiff.
Here cannot touch, there cannot touch, siao… might as well be a monk.
May 13th, 2006 at 2:42 pm
So you going to tell us when you got puberty? Was it 15 or 16? I hear girls get those hairs real young, even younger than boys. Were you excited? Wah, already a woman, no longer a gurl. Mommy cannot shower with me anymore, tee hee.
Did you have to buy a man’s shaver to shave your underarms? How often do you have to shave your armpits? Were you excited when the breasts started growing? I hear women’s nipples get erect and enlarged when they experience an orgasm. Is this true? Can we see?
May 13th, 2006 at 2:48 pm
Start talking about sex and all the pervs come crawling out from their parents’ basements…
May 13th, 2006 at 4:03 pm
A relationship is not all about sexual compatibility or not. It’s much more than that, it’s about love, respect, trust, etc.
Committing oneself to celibacy til marriage is an easy decision to make but a difficult one to keep and I truly respect those who work hard not to go with the flow, so to speak.
Hence, minishorts, keep up what you value. Breaking your celibacy vow after marriage is so much more meaningful. A man who truly loves you will respect your decision without trying to change your mind once. And if any sexual incompatibility should arise after marriage, take it as a challenge to work things out between husband and wife. Good luck!
May 13th, 2006 at 4:44 pm
Just do what i do - pay someone to kick ya in between the legs and poor ice down there … hmmm, I must learn to walk straight again!
[Actually, I just said that to get the guys eyes watering! hee hee! Me evil!]
Seriously though, just get married, then you won’t have to worry about sex, because it all stops then … it’s like the hormones go away to bother someone else!
Wooops, did I just say ’seriously’ Pttthhh! Bodoh Dabido!
May 13th, 2006 at 5:12 pm
Respect!
May 13th, 2006 at 7:19 pm
Good choice.
Ugly people have no business procreating anyway.
May 13th, 2006 at 11:12 pm
Yeah, but what I’m trying to say is that maybe things will be easier when we all just take a deep breathe and take things as they come. You know…sit back a little and enjoy the moments for what they are. Maybe then convictions such as what you are doing wont seem so hard pressed.
May 14th, 2006 at 12:06 am
aw cum on, minishort is not ugly lah.
She’s HOT (with some make up of course)
Just a bit stiff that’s all, and could be potential to be frigid though.
BJ, HJ, AJ, just no FJ should be fine.
May 14th, 2006 at 1:07 am
You can have as much the love, respect and trust as you can carry.
But it means diddley squat if you’re unwilling to have a normal healthy sexual relationship with a guy.
Most guys would dump a girl after 3 months of serious dating if she’s unwilling to engage in sexual intercourse.
We guys need sex and you need love and affection. We go outta of way to please you with flowers and love letters, snuggling on couch when we should be out watching the footy with mates. The very least you should do in return is please us sexually.
By denying your man the very thing he craves, you’re formenting seeds of distrust. Believe me, Erics probably already thinking about fcuking anything that moves if you’re really planing on staying “pure”. You’re basically forcing him to cheat to meet his basic sexual needs. Unless you approved of him visiting hookers, he’ll have no release outlet.
I hope my post doesn’t offend anyone. But it’s the truth from one guys perspective.
May 14th, 2006 at 4:34 am
Err..eqx, i beg to differ.
Although i am a guy and i agree with the general statement that you made, you cannot assume Claire’s guy is the same.
Unless of course, it comes out from his mouth!!
But then again he never said anything did he?
May 14th, 2006 at 8:56 am
its an incentive to get married lor
May 14th, 2006 at 3:49 pm
Minishorts,
I just wanted to say thank you. Thank you for standing up for what you believe. We all live in a world where people continually make decisions they later regret just because of peer pressure. Consequently, its great to hear that someone has made a vow of celibacy before marriage, and held to it. I see that most of the people who attacked you for your decision failed to see the true strength and significance of your position. By choosing to keep celibate, you honor your virtue, you body above momentary, meaningless pleasure. I know it cannot have been easy to keep your vow so long, but I applaud you for doing it. Keep it up, and I wish you the strength to keep to your commitment.
May 14th, 2006 at 5:59 pm
But without Eric then masturbation is the only other option. Sure I masturbate all the time but don’t have the ability to do it continually. Have to recuperate at least a few hours before doing the thing again. But what’s the point of being celibate unless you’re thinking of living in the Vatican. And they’ve just elected a new Pope who hopefully should be around for many years more. So for the rest of us, we probe and dump. And minishorts has long hair, fair skin, is young and supple, very good for dumping indeed.
May 14th, 2006 at 7:10 pm
At least give Eric a handjob lah.
I’ll bet he’ll love you for giving him a blowjob as well.
May 14th, 2006 at 7:53 pm
just get marriage… A.S.A.P!
call the pastor/priest.. call the parents.. call the friends NOW! to celebrate the important day..
after that, book a nice hotel and watch out for hidden camera.. hehe.
so, no trouble with yourself or even GOD!
May 14th, 2006 at 8:37 pm
It’s true
there are so many options
Honestly minishorts, why sweat the small stuff?
oral sex, hand jobs, etc. so many options. Don’t have to worry do you?
If you’re talking about options to straight up sexual intercourse, you really have nothing to worry about.
Worse come to worse, you can ask eric to masturbate or visit a massage spa (if he’s asking you to put out)
But other then that, I guess you’re doing pretty well for keeping your vows of no sexual intercourse, but just look at the other options if you and eric are getting randy and need some… release..
May 14th, 2006 at 9:21 pm
Values are changing indeed, hor?
But you shouldn’t compromise your personal principles.
May 14th, 2006 at 11:07 pm
Does sex really plays a great part in marriage?..
who am i kidding here……
May 15th, 2006 at 12:11 am
minishorts: ignore what all these deprived people have to say. what you’re believing in is truly honourable.
and besides, why must need prior practice? So dumb. After get married, you have all the time and reasons to practice even more la! what la..
so yes! stay strong!:)
May 15th, 2006 at 12:22 am
What is all this honourable crap thing ?
Why are Christians so uptight about all these ?
You have priests who likes little young boys and girls. THAT’S honor for you.
*LOL*
Lighten up. What’s a little handjob or blowjob compared to a priest who fondles little boys and little girls ?
May 15th, 2006 at 2:41 am
Can’t help to comment
Well, to me, I think there’s a difference between a ‘pure’ virgin and a ‘not so pure’ virgin. The pure ones has not even seen, nor touch, nor do whatever that excludes penetration. I know some commentors here are talking about alternatives which would be for the ‘not so pure’ virgins. I don’t know if virgins got pure or not so pure lah.
But anyway, I think it’s good you’re keeping the vow. It’ll be worth it, really. And the way I see it, Eric would love you even more (and not the other way round) because you hold on to your values and virtue. And because it’s so hard to keep, he respects. After all, if a guy really loves you for who you are, he’ll understand and not make a fuss of wanting to be serviced.
May God give you strength, minishorts.
May 15th, 2006 at 4:36 am
jus do wat u like for god sake…to do or not to do….ur choice, ur vow.
May 15th, 2006 at 7:53 am
you know, i had made such vow in the past… just wanna say that we are naturally weak in our flesh. holiness and purity cannot be achieved by self-effort. only by gaining the life of Christ can we be upright and blameless. and of course, let me remind you that being a christian is not about always “doing the right thing”. Seek Him first and His kingdom, allow his spirit to saturate your inner being…and the “doing the right thing” will take care of itself…
Love reading your blog. thanks for sharing and always being real.
May 15th, 2006 at 8:56 am
yes Claire Khoo - trash talking, ego-driven, obscenity-laced, holier-than-thou hypocrite is pure, just because she abstains from letting her ugly boyfriend put his pee pee place into her smelly cheese-oozing cunt.
May 15th, 2006 at 10:31 am
We are only human, just do it !!
May 15th, 2006 at 12:58 pm
Can’t you read between the lines? She’s already made out with her BF.
May 15th, 2006 at 1:35 pm
Good on you. At least there are some people left in this world who value themselves.
RESPECT.
Perservere you will.
May 15th, 2006 at 2:49 pm
Arrghhh the mental images!!
May 15th, 2006 at 3:17 pm
“Already made out” is a watered down substitute for the truth, which she’s trying to hide since TheStar blew away the pseudonym she was supposedly hiding behind.
Can’t let ma know.
May 15th, 2006 at 4:46 pm
sexyman:
it’s not about being uptight, it’s about remaining true to the values and beliefs you stand up for. not that you can relate to something like this.
about the priests - hey, it just goes to show that no one can be ‘holy’ by their own strength right? What they did was wrong WRONG and believe me, they will be judged.
sin is sin, big or small. after all, a horse is still a horse, whether black, white, or green-spotted, right?
the way you think.. is beyond disgusting, really. you need to relook your values.
May 15th, 2006 at 4:47 pm
sexyman:
it’s not about being uptight, it’s about remaining true to the values and beliefs you stand up for. not that you can relate to something like this.
about the priests - hey, it just goes to show that no one can be ‘holy’ by their own strength right? What they did was wrong WRONG and believe me, they will be judged.
sin is sin, big or small. after all, a horse is still a horse, whether black, white, or green-spotted, right?
the way you think.. is beyond disgusting, really.
May 15th, 2006 at 5:17 pm
Actually, in general, christians are uptight because they fear that they will sin. But really, what’s the big deal since if you’re a christian, god has forgiven your sins and you’ll still go to heaven?
Isn’t the main thing about christianity about going to heaven? And if you’re going to go to heaven already, you may as well enjoy yourself here on earth. For goodness sakes, have a drink or two, maybe a cigarette if you enjoy smoking, and once in a while some sex. It’s not going to kill you to loosen up, nor is it going to send you to hell for eternity if you get jiggy with it.
It’s christians that go around with the holier-then-thou attitude and all good things on earth should be shunned that give the more sociable christians a bad name. I mean, going around saying how much temptation you’re facing everything you want to get it on with your boyfriend and how you’re going to overcome your sexual desires comes off as rather weird. Comes across very much as “all other girls who have sex are lousy sluts that go to hell, hey, look at it, i’m pure and virginal and on the train to heaven”
There is nothing wrong with having sex with somebody. So please, don’t put it in such a way that having sex with somebody is a sin that will send you to hell. I don’t think the bible says you’re going to hell if you get jiggy with it, even if it’s anal sex.
I think the key word here is, moderation. Have a few drinks on moderation, drugs in moderation, sex in moderation life in moderation. Don’t go overboard, and don’t shun everything just because you’re weak and can’t control it and do it in moderation.
On the other hand, this post with 3 sentences definitely is an attention grabber. wow
May 15th, 2006 at 9:03 pm
tio:
being a christian, is NOT about going to heaven. It just happens that the idea of ‘oh I’m a Christian my spot in heaven is guaranteed’ is such a misunderstood, misconceived notion.
just because my salvation is assured, it does NOT mean i can do anything i want. I am definitely not a hermit who buries herself in a cave for fear of committing a sin (oh! the horror!). I sin. Every single day. My thoughts, my words, my actions, and it just goes to show me how human I am.
And nothing was ever said about sex being wrong. In fact, there is nothing wrong with sex. It is just the way our culture and society has twisted sex and has made such a beautiful thing dirty by treating it so lightly.
do you really think it’s so easy to be a Christian? You are so wrong. It’s NOT easy to remain pure in a world as corrupted as this. It is NOT easy to say ‘NO’ when everyone around you is saying ‘yes’. And that’s what makes this journey so special - the knowledge that you really are standing up for what you believe in.
May 15th, 2006 at 10:07 pm
Can’t help it. Carol I really really agree with you. Cheers!
May 16th, 2006 at 12:14 am
To those of you who go on about mutual masturbation, anal sex blahblah:
It isn’t about virginity. Its about purity.
May 16th, 2006 at 12:28 am
To those of you who go on about mutual masturbation, anal sex blah blah:
It isn’t about virginity. Its about purity.
May 16th, 2006 at 1:24 am
elb, I agree with your proposition that it isn’t about virginity, it’s about purity, of mind & soul.
May 17th, 2006 at 4:23 pm
Sex is overrated. More often than not, it’s the guy who derives the most pleasure from it. You might as well wait. I speak from experience, not as some prudish virgin who is anti-man.
May 18th, 2006 at 2:52 am
It isn’t all about sex…in whatever form. To say ’sexual compatibility’ is not the point. Any guy can have sex with any girl.
To settle for the physical and to go ahead with it is just plain shallow. It’s the emotional and spiritual needs which need to be fulfilled first and foremost.
I applaud a lady who stands firm in her principles.
May 22nd, 2006 at 9:07 pm
MOrpheusX says:
Err..eqx, i beg to differ.
Although i am a guy and i agree with the general statement that you made, you cannot assume Claire’s guy is the same.
Unless of course, it comes out from his mouth!!
But then again he never said anything did he?
=> it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling that at least minipants got herself a polite bf. u knw what they say abt not having anythg nice to say. hahaha
btw, anyone can look good with a little makeup. even my grandma. whats the use of saying that in the 1st place?!