Daily Archives: Monday, 15 May 2006

To a friend

I don't want to sound like I'm preaching, but you know this already, because we've been there for each other everytime things like this happens. You say the same to me, and I say the same to you, except, in between tear-stained visions, sometimes the mind gets clouded, and we forget the very sense of what it means to be really sensible.

And so I tell you, a line that you must have overheard too many hundreds of times since yesterday, 'A partnership takes two people, and when just one person decides to give up, there really isn't any point in going on anymore.'

Even if it hurts. Even if the hurt threatens to tear you apart. Even if it makes you feel as if you are the lousiest piece of shit in the world. EVEN IF you want to throw it all away and give up.

No one is worth THAT many buckets of tears. No matter how fantastic it was before, it's now past, and there's just no point reminiscing the memories. They serve no purpose now, except to tell you and remind you that those are moments in time past where you slipped and fell, and for you to recall what NOT to do so that you will not suffer the same pain again.

Right now, you have all the time in the world to regain yourself, and to rediscover your own value, something that you never really did the last time. I think it's a blessing in disguise. A woman is truly ready to walk into a lifelong relationship when she realizes she doesn't really need the man to survive. I think she's ready when she knows that she's independent, and able to cope with life alone, but chooses to commit to a relationship only because she enjoys and looks forward to a lifetime of partnership when she is still fully capable of making it through life alone.

So take your time.