To a friend
I don't want to sound like I'm preaching, but you know this already, because we've been there for each other everytime things like this happens. You say the same to me, and I say the same to you, except, in between tear-stained visions, sometimes the mind gets clouded, and we forget the very sense of what it means to be really sensible.
And so I tell you, a line that you must have overheard too many hundreds of times since yesterday, 'A partnership takes two people, and when just one person decides to give up, there really isn't any point in going on anymore.'
Even if it hurts. Even if the hurt threatens to tear you apart. Even if it makes you feel as if you are the lousiest piece of shit in the world. EVEN IF you want to throw it all away and give up.
…
No one is worth THAT many buckets of tears. No matter how fantastic it was before, it's now past, and there's just no point reminiscing the memories. They serve no purpose now, except to tell you and remind you that those are moments in time past where you slipped and fell, and for you to recall what NOT to do so that you will not suffer the same pain again.
Right now, you have all the time in the world to regain yourself, and to rediscover your own value, something that you never really did the last time. I think it's a blessing in disguise. A woman is truly ready to walk into a lifelong relationship when she realizes she doesn't really need the man to survive. I think she's ready when she knows that she's independent, and able to cope with life alone, but chooses to commit to a relationship only because she enjoys and looks forward to a lifetime of partnership when she is still fully capable of making it through life alone.
So take your time.
May 15th, 2006 at 9:11 am
“A woman is truly ready to walk into a lifelong relationship when she realizes she doesn’t really need the man to survive. I think she’s ready when she knows that she’s independent, and able to cope with life alone, but chooses to commit to a relationship only because she enjoys and looks forward to a lifetime of partnership when she is still fully capable of making it through life alone.”
Seconded!
May 15th, 2006 at 9:37 am
I think I know who this friend is. Nevertheless, yeah…but it’s not just every woman. It’s everyone who needs to walk through a relationship they lived in to realize that it isn’t about the dependency between one another that makes things work.
It’s the fact that each and every one of us has to learn how to fully walk our own road by ourselves before we share a road that runs parallel to ours. Maybe then…things start to work.
May 15th, 2006 at 11:16 am
‘A partnership takes two people, and when just one person decides to give up, there really isn’t any point in going on anymore.’
That says it all.
May 15th, 2006 at 11:29 am
Well said!
May 15th, 2006 at 11:40 am
spyder: i loved your post regarding our reactions to the DVC. will be talking about that in my next post, and yes, some people are terribly annoying. they are the ones who need to be weeded, not the problems that we have in our faith.
as it is, i think it is terribly unholy to spend the most of one’s time scrutinizing the ugly weeds that a neighbour has in his garden.
May 15th, 2006 at 1:54 pm
Ooo.. a message for FireAngel. Hahahahaa.
May 15th, 2006 at 2:17 pm
so true.
May 15th, 2006 at 3:32 pm
I think what you’ve written is very meaningful. “A woman is truly ready to walk into a lifelong relationship when she realizes she doesn’t really need the man to survive”.
Not only for man, i think both man and woman, should at least once in their life walked the journey alone, to know the true feeling of being independent. Then we will mature to our next journey in life.
May 15th, 2006 at 4:43 pm
It is when people stop desiring to be part of another person’s life that the “two shall become one” actually happens.
*thumbsup*
May 15th, 2006 at 6:33 pm
“No one is worth THAT many buckets of tears.”
Yes. No one is. I like the way you put it. It’s okay to grieve but there will come a time when you need to stop and realise you need to move on.
And I admire your persistence to remain chaste till marriage. My personal principal on that matter will not cloud my admiration for the choice you’ve made.
Cheers.
May 15th, 2006 at 10:45 pm
Well you’re a purdy girl so I guess it’s no worries about the other half runnin’ away with another purdy gurl. It’s probably just life with all sorts chasing for yer attention ‘cos you’re a purdy gurl.
May 15th, 2006 at 11:38 pm
Thanks for visiting my blog CK. Didn’t know you dropped by, though. Leave lah your comment(s)
May 15th, 2006 at 11:51 pm
spyder: i can’t leave comments lah. my office prohibits me from leaving comments at blogspot blogs. so sorry!
May 16th, 2006 at 12:02 am
That’s ok. I understand. No prob. Nice of you to let me know what you thought of it in your blog. Ttyl
Take care.
May 16th, 2006 at 1:57 am
How true.
I just broke up with bf & I feel so guilty & free and all..MESSY..and your post gave me a lot of strenght. Even though it’s not meant for me, it helped me a lot. ^^ Thanks!
May 16th, 2006 at 9:00 pm
Are you breaking up with Eric???
May 18th, 2006 at 1:11 pm
After a disaster broke up, no more tear waste for a person is worthless.
I dun get upset after all, shall thanks him to make me grow stronger.
He is the one who betray me and keep empty promises to hurt me..
Should not be sad because he leave, he should be the one get upset coz he lost someone who love him so much, but i only lost someone who doesnt love me at all! pointless to keep…he aint a keeper..
We all are unique individual, shall not too depends on another to survive. The life journey still need to move on, only we guide and judge our destiny in our hand.
Life is short, i’ve better thing to do without “a poison” in life.
Tomorow another new page of life….