This point of view.
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We had a conversation over teh tarik and canai last night. A friend, whose sister had fallen in love with a Muslim man and had decided to agree to marry him. The family, a staunchly Christian household, was trying to come to terms with what the youngest daughter's decision meant.
'My dad is more than upset. He behaves as if he has brought her up wrongly.'
'But they're still speaking to each other,' I asked.
'Yes of course, we respect her decision. In a marriage, it's not the beginning that counts, it's the process, and the end. Actually, let's hope there's no end to this marriage,' said our friend, the brother. 'I just want my sister to be happy, you know? I mean, maybe she wouldn't be as happy as she is now if she chose a Christian instead.'
There were about five of us, all of different races, well, except we were in a non-halal restaurant, so go figure. Maybe it was easier to talk about 'issues' like this in such a place. Seriously, the topic was really nothing sensitive, or at least, that's what I feel. I mean, marriages that bind people of different races or faith, always tend to be a little bit troublesome.
Ah Chong (not his real name, of course, a self-professed free-thinker who goes to the local medium occasionally, said, 'You all Christians leave it up to God. If me, I might go to a medium and see what the sifu can do. You know? Burn some paper, do a little charm. Dong chiang dong chiang, you know? Maybe things will be okay.'
'And then?' the brother questioned. 'Not okay how? Burn down the sifu's house izzit? This kind of things, up to God lah. God has greater plans, I cannot understand why He allows these things to happen, but I'm sure there's a reason for all of this.'
Muthu, a Hindu, replied, 'Like the Muslims would say, Insya-Allah.'
'We're not Muslims, do you think it's wrong for us to utilize their words?'
'Well then, 'God willing,' lor… Does it matter?' I said. 'Aiyah, it's your sister's choice, not like it's a BAD thing, why do we make as if a choice to believe is a bad thing?
Muthu chipped in, 'Yeah lah. If she wants, let her lah. I mean, everyone's fighting because of differences in opinion. Like this marriage, I think it's your sister, I know you guys care for her, but maybe she prefers to make her own decisions? Looks like she's decided anyway.'
The brother said, 'I know lah. We just want the best for her.'
That's the same argument everyone stands by, I think. I want the best for you. Sometimes, I feel like saying, 'Bullshit lah, the best for me. You just want me to follow and play by your rules. So that you'd feel good. If you want the best for me you wouldn't be arguing so much with me. You would let me try things out on my own, make my own decisions, and walk on my own learning curve.'
Someone please correct me if you find this post a little sensitive.
Deviations. On a more cheerful note, I bought myself a Sea-Monkey's kit. Have just purified the water, and am waiting for 24 hours to pass. April, kalau tak sampai 24 jam boleh tak proceed with the instant live eggs step?
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July 30, 2006 at 12:57 am
Thanks for ur kindness.. lol
However, I must say these:
Now that I reread your post, Minishorts.. I realize I seem to be missing the general idea :S I apologize.
I offer you a Christian perspective:
I’ll try to sum up what I meant -
Imagine, if you were a devout Christian. That would mean that you KNOW that God exists. And you know that He is the way to salvation. Now imagine that you are happily in your home, eating dinner, then your daughter says she wants to become a muslim for the man she loves. What comes to mind?
“OMFG, my daughter might not go to heaven!”
OR…
“OMFG everyone is going to make fun of me” ?
You’d be concerned as a parent. It has little to do with ego. You would fear for her soul.
Minishorts, I’m under the impression that you are mentally ready to accuse her father/brother of male chauvinism haha.. forgive me
— Further explanation —
Christians believe that if you marry to a man/woman of another religion, it is VERY HARD to “grow in Christ.”
July 30, 2006 at 1:01 am
no i’m not going to accuse her brother. i’d accuse you and sexyman of idiocy
mahai… i think because most ultra traditional chinese men behave like sexyman, ISLAM becomes a better religion. in her case, she’s got no problems bringing up her kids to be muslims. now if they choose to be murtad later in life, she will have her own set of problems to handle.
but for now, stupid strangers like you should stop using my blog as a punching back to voice your disgust at things that DO NOT bother you at all.
you guys pick up the bo chap attitude, but apply it in all the wrong places.
July 30, 2006 at 1:03 am
….and some members of the ‘rakyat’ think that we as a country are ready to discuss shit like that openly. With these kind of assholes around randomly picking a fight with another religion, racial riots are bound to happen.
Like I said, this country is not mature enough to have open forums bullshit. Everybody should just shut up and sit at home.
July 30, 2006 at 1:10 am
If I may be given a few minutes of attention, I don’t mean to do crappy evangelism here.. but if you free thinkers out there want to learn more about why these Christians are the way they are, http://www.christiananswers.net is an incredible resource.
Sigh.. I can imagine what you critics can say already, but there is are explanations to why Christians believe this is so. Very solid explanations that we can all learn. If you didn’t already know, the world’s top scholars and scientists in the past and the present are Christians. Suggesting that the Christian faith is unfounded implies that you believe that all these respected people are dumber than you. (I challenge you to Google for info.)
July 30, 2006 at 1:14 am
sigh: SIGH indeed.
(I’m closing this chain because this topic has gone out of hand. Sigh. I WILL NOT ALLOW PROTECTION OF A RELIGION THAT NEEDS NO PROTECTION SIMPLY BECAUSE THE RELIGION THAT IS VICTIMIZED HERE IS NOT CHRISTIANITY.
Yes we should care for another Christian’s plight, but we must not forget also that we are humans, Malaysians, and we do not live in a community that is fenced off from the others.)
Now everyone will shut the fuck up because I say so.