And we’re two today.
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Eric and I are two years old today.
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I'd be really honest here. It was extremely easy to get into this relationship, and when it started everything was nothing less than fantastic. When we met, and we both agree to this, Eric was precisely what I was looking for in my life, and vice versa, me the girl of his dreams. So you can imagine, we met up a least once a day, and in the early days when my job placed me just ten minutes drive away from where he was working, we used to meet up for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
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I remember a pastor said once during Christmas, many many years ago, how relationships grow and you learn that first loves often turn into tiresome loves. God wants us to work on our relationships, and how couples often take each other for granted.
'When I first met my wife, everything was fantastic, she dig nose in public I also happy, I said, "Wah this girl so confident, public place also she dare to dig her nose, I like." Five years down the road in my first year of marriage, I looked at her digging her nose in public and I thought, "What kind of woman is this, digging her nose in public also can." '
The congregation roared with laughter, and the dear pastor's wife was sitting right in front of him, can you believe that? I wondered what she thought then, 'This husband of mine, making jokes at my expense… what is this?'
But they stayed married despite that, and while I was too young to realize just how difficult it is to stay devoted to each other despite the odds, I thought it was fantastic that Mrs Pastor's Wife was able to tolerate her husband exposing her dirtiest secret in front of everyone like that.
'It's the same for me, I know when I brush my teeth, the froth from the toothpaste goes all over the mirror. When we first got married, my wife must have thought, "WAH SO CREVER, LIKE STARS ON A DARK NIGHT," heh. Now ah, I think she must be scolding me each time she's got to clean the mirror.'
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Of course, ours is actually a very normal relationship. Slowly the ferocious flames of 'just-in-love' slowed down, and the huge bonfire is now a calm flame giving just enough light to warm up our lives. Corny I know, but I'll also say this. It's not easy to keep the flame going. Ask April, in recent months, it's getting harder to tolerate his idiosyncracies, and I quite believe he feels the same way too.
Some people wonder why I put up with Eric, and likewise I wonder why he puts up with me. See, I quite believe I've got a bit of a syndrome here, though I'm not sure what. After all, Miss-know-it-all here once burst in the middle of a cinema theatre and poured her mineral water all over the guy who sat next to her. I still recall what happened, and in the light of serendipity stories, it's amazing how Raoul (not his real name) eventually became an online friend and was terribly helpful in calming me down and taking me through the necessary routes of resigning from my previous job amicably in order to join TNB. I forgot to wish you blessed Christmas this year!
When people ask me what exactly I want in a man, I always say this, 'Someone who's sensitive enough to listen to me, and someone who knows that while I'm strong on the outside (cos I want face mah), I've got a weak foundation, and I crumble easily, almost all the time. I've got leaking tear ducts, and I cry even while reading an anecdote. I want a guy who can appreciate all that.'
So the truth is, Eric's not the guy who can appreciate all that all the time. Neither is he sensitive all the time. But I know also, I'm far apart from the strong woman inside and outside, all the time. So he puts up with who I am, I stick around despite who he is. Because I think, we love each other to bits.
I know in our heads, we all have our Mr Rights and Miss Rights. I know in Eric's head, he wants a girl who's quietly confident, the type who doesn't cry buckets, the kind who's awesome with the chores, and the type who can looking up to him as her man and well, have agreements with him on most occasions. Unfortunately I'm a strongheaded woman, and a contradiction of ideals, bold to strangers, yet I have an apparently low self-esteem among closer mates, so I seek affirmations from friends all the time.
I quite believe that the head can craft out our ideal partners in life, but when you do fall in love, you don't fall with your head. It comes with a little magical sparkle courtesy of the Big Guy up there, and probably a clumsy thump in the heart. And so it's true, you fall with your heart, and your head gives in a little, but you usually learn to compromise and he/she will be the kind of guy who's just right for you.
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I know this man, right now, he's just right for me. I'm not sure if he's going to be just right for me forever, but I do hope so. So I'll say all this: I'm happy we're two today, I'm happy we've made it so far. I'm glad that we've made so many promises to each other, and I'm definitely glad we're looking beyond just a bf-gf relationship. I'm excited he's coming with me to Kelantan this CNY, and I'm happy my mother loves him like a son. I'm just glad, that we're two today, and I wanna wish him a very happy anniversary here on my blog.
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December 29, 2006 at 6:20 pm
Happy anniversary, you two!
December 29, 2006 at 9:25 pm
awww…Happy Anniversary and Happy New Year!!!
December 29, 2006 at 10:04 pm
What you need is some good surprises from Eric to give your relationship a boost. I remembered my girlfriend, before she became my wife, was thrilled when I paid a surprise visit to her in Penang during CNY many, many years ago
January 2, 2007 at 1:55 pm
Happy Anniversary!!
January 3, 2007 at 9:31 am
Whatever the case, there are going to be many more reflections to come. Happy annivesary to you.
January 3, 2007 at 10:00 am
Sometimes the person that seems right is wrong.
Sometimes the person that seems wrong is right.
Whichever it is, time will tell.
In the meantime, just love.
Love the good, the bad, the ugly. =)
Happy Anniversary to you both!
January 3, 2007 at 10:41 am
Happy Anniversary. Keep God as the Third Party in your relationship so that He can keep both of you together in ups and downs.
January 3, 2007 at 10:42 am
im sure we are gonna get big hint from u to eric again during 07.07.2007
y are u pushing eric so hard? dun push too hard. be urself. love cannot be forced
January 3, 2007 at 11:33 am
could pls tell me wat had happened huai bin?….i was outstation for the whole month…i can’t acess to his blog..
January 3, 2007 at 12:42 pm
Sometimes guys need a bit pushing, book a date and plan for the big day.
Hmmm 070707 seem like a fantastic day.
January 3, 2007 at 1:02 pm
dear mini,
what a lovely story. Thanks for sharing. Awesome. May this relationship blossom into something more than just a bf-gf relationship….something more…yeah!…
7th of July, year 2007 which falls on the 7th day-saturday is a good day to “KAHWIN”…think about it..hehe..
Blessed 2nd anniversary.
Alvin
January 3, 2007 at 1:38 pm
I truly agree on this. An amen to this!
Happy anniversary!
January 3, 2007 at 4:26 pm
Hmmm,…this gal has develop “Baby” fever…..!!!, maybe it’s time to up the ante??
January 3, 2007 at 4:39 pm
happy anniversary
January 4, 2007 at 10:27 pm
happy anniversary
January 6, 2007 at 11:28 pm
Me and my other half were also two years old just nine days before yours. I can understand how awesome it really is to have someone in your life whom you feel comfortable with. You just know he’s the one, it’s hard to explain.
Two years sound short to some people, but to me it’s very meaningful because if two person of different characters and different lifestyles can be together for this long, it must be fate and of course the effort the two person put in, hoping relationship will last longer.
Happy Anniversary and wish you and Eric happy forever.
Enjoy your blog always =)
January 8, 2007 at 3:27 pm
*sniff*sniff* soooooo sweeeettttt!
lol!
may i just say that both you and eric are so lucky. despite wants and fantasies, you found each other! not many can claim that.
happy new year!
pssttt, hope the discussion is progressing well.
January 9, 2007 at 7:45 pm
Hmmm … your boyfriend is Eric
and now there’s a Raoul.
Isn’t Eric the phantom of the opera
and Raoul steals his protege?
hehe
January 15, 2007 at 10:23 pm
I just celebrated my 3rd year anniversary too.. and i must say i totally agree with you.. sometimes i tend to compare how he treated me when we just started, all sweet and tolerate.. now! Haha.. but i know all love has also grown so yeah.. its hard but it does have its rewards! =)
happy anniversary!