Untraditional Conversations
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My Mom's a little more than excited since she was told that her only daughter is finally going to tie the knot, and so everyday she would be talking about the wedding and what she expects of us, and what she thinks unnecessary for the big day.
Some stuff like 'consulting' someone to have the day set was one of the obvious discussions we had earlier, but after some days of toiling around and having my fiance going, 'Eh want meh? No need lah just pick a Saturday that's super popular and already booked at certain restaurants, and use that date lah. If it's already booked by this time, must be good day one…' Mum sort of agreed and so now we've decided to have the wedding this time next year.
So yeah we've got the date sorted out, and last week we did a verbal booking at the restaurant, deposit yet to be paid. And so my mum is now going straight to the details like the flow of the day, and what's going to happen in the interim.
'So the night before you know, I'm not going to do a big party thing, we'll just call the family and we'll go out for a simple dinner at a local restaurant, and then we'll go home have a chat, so that you can go to bed a little earlier.'
'No need to do the combing hair thing lah?'
'Combing hair thing?'
'Yeah I've had a lot of friends going through that…'
'Oh THAT… hahahah, no need lah.'
'Oh Mum thank goodness you're not so traditional, I heard that to do that ceremony both Eric and I have to stay up till the clock hits 12…'
'Well, actually, it's good to have the hair combing … you know what it means right?'
'Yeah, something about symbolizing the virginity.'
I had just turned into the road where we stayed on as we came to this topic, and Mum suddenly decided to have her voice tuned a little softer.
'In olden days, the Chinese do the hair combing ceremony as a presentation to God lah, actually you have to be a virgin in order to qualify for the hair combing thing…'
'Oooh…'
'So it's actually a very sacred ceremony you know, nowadays people don't really care lah, but since we believe in God right…'
'Right… '
'Better don't do the ceremony lah, I mean, think about it, I'm not too sure if you and Eric are virgins anymore, after all you've been together for so long right? So if the two of you have been naughty, then we really shouldn't test God lor… '
And then before I could even give a response, my mum switched the topic like lightning okay. It was 'wedding' first, and then 'oh I forgot to tell you what the ladies said in the market today….'
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November 21, 2007 at 2:06 am
hahaa.
open minded mom nevertheless.
November 21, 2007 at 7:38 am
mum of imbaness!
November 21, 2007 at 9:21 am
I guess because you’re getting married so your mom is more open-minded about this. =D
November 21, 2007 at 9:24 am
Hahaha, guess this shows, never doubt the power of a mother’s intuition.
November 21, 2007 at 9:38 am
I never knew the symbolism of the hair combing ceremony. I guess most of us learned it through watching all those HK dramas. Thank goodness you are not gonna go thru it. Can sleep earlier mah. *winks*
November 21, 2007 at 10:23 am
hahaha your mum so cute..hahaa..we can’t hide anything from mums wan lor
November 21, 2007 at 4:46 pm
Ahhh..!! congrats..!!
November 22, 2007 at 2:28 pm
So yes or no liao?
November 22, 2007 at 7:16 pm
Actually, there isn’t alot of emphasis on the bride & groom’s virginity in regards to the hair combing ceremony (partly because it used to be a taken for granted fact). The ceremony symbolizes the “coming-of-age” of the couple but mostly, to wish them longevity, love, and children. So as it goes:
First comb to comb till the end
Second comb to bring love and respect till old age
Third comb to bring lots of children and grandchildren
In any case, good luck on your wedding planning. I’m sure you will hear a lot of this but I will say it anyway: focus on enjoying the planning process and the big day
November 23, 2007 at 10:39 pm
mothers. man.
November 26, 2007 at 4:34 pm
Your mom is hilarious. I’m glad that she’s pretty open-minded though, and that she has the sense to know that it could be kind of an awkward topic.