Weddings Central
So it's an absurd year of Weddings and it's official! I've got 10 weddings to attend this year and one to be the star of. The wedding planning, the wedding reception (after the church function), the cards, the grand banquet, the invitation, the relatives, the finance-planning for the big day, where to go during the honeymoon! OMG! But thank God for great wedding sites!
As for us, the adventure starts this week.
We're off to Penang to attend the wedding (or was it an engagement party? Can't recall) of one of Eric's LP friends. Now this is where being a frequent traveller helps a lot because I can get cool prices for lodging, and so I told Eric that I'd book the hotel room. It's the Gurney. I wanted G Hotel but it's so popular now they only have executive suites left.
So never mind that, I was telling my mom about the drive we were making this weekend.
'Oh so where are you going to stay?'
'The Gurney lah. I booked a room.'
'Really?'
'Yeah, two beds.'
'Of course. Just be careful…'
'Mom, there's two beds.'
'Yeah well two of you are engaged, and anyway both of you will be in the same room… one bed or two beds… well… and even if you booked two rooms, you can still go back to the same room.'
There she goes again. (Seriously since getting engaged my mom has been going on and on about sex in not so many words.)
'Mom!!'
'Well, you're both engaged and going to get married, so I don't care what you do lah, as long as you don't get pregnant before the wedding can adi.'
'…'
Answer or not? Talk or not? I just got license to pre-marital sex. Should we bring out the wine and confetti?
January 24th, 2008 at 10:09 am
I wonder, discreetly, what your mom’s reaction would be if you have said thanks instead of remaining speechless.
**ponders**
Cos i know my mom will go bonkers and immediately start reciting verses from the bible almost immediately.
January 24th, 2008 at 5:15 pm
Jesus Christ! You mean you’re getting engaged to someone you haven’t even had sex with before?
Wow…recipe for disaster if there ever was one. Good luck in your marriage…you’ll need it.
January 24th, 2008 at 7:18 pm
I don’t know what Kunnusia has been smoking, but at the time I got married the statistics showed that those who slept together BEFORE marriage got divorced 80% of the time and those who waited till they were married got divorced 20% of the time. Admittedly those statistics are from 1990 and Australia, but most stats I’ve heard before and after have been pretty consistent [though admittedly they've all come from Western Countries].
So, wait till you’re ready. Ignore those who make silly comments about trying before you buy etc.
Mothers … can’t live with them, not allowed to shoot them. At least your mother doesn’t think you’re gay. And I know most of my family think I went to Malaysia and just slept around with every girl I met, when I didn’t sleep with any. People often judge based on what they think or hope is happening … or worry is happening in your mother’s case. lol
I think the sad thing is she brought you up and doesn’t seem to even know/trust you.
January 25th, 2008 at 8:56 am
Kunnusia: I find it interesting that you mention Jesus Christ together with the strange question of ‘why haven’t you had sex before getting married?’ ^_^ I find it funny that people call for God when they’re exasperated like you are…
I’m sorry to keep you worrying, and thanks for wishing me luck.
January 25th, 2008 at 11:47 am
Wuahahah! On a lighter note, I could only imagine how your mum’s reaction would be if you were to answer : “Yeah, okay, we’ll take precautions to make sure I don’t get pregnant before wedding”.
But seriously, you just do what is right in God’s eyes
January 25th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
I wasn’t calling for God. I was using his name in vain.
January 25th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Wine and confetti are contraceptives?
January 25th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
Kunnusia - same difference.
January 25th, 2008 at 5:26 pm
i think what kunnusia meant was, his version of marriage is based heavily on sex. While mini’s is based less on sex.
January 27th, 2008 at 9:26 am
I think Dabido (#3) may find that the quoted statistics on divorce quoted refer not to pre-marital sex, but to cohabiting before marriage.
January 31st, 2008 at 9:11 am
i think…it will be best if we don’t have ‘fun’ b4 marriage….
like dabido said…i think most of the couples that have ‘fun’ b4 marriage will not have the best moment of their life compare to couples that don’t have ‘fun’ b4 marriage……..cos it is the different feeling….you just happy cos you have married then the other one happy bcoz the get married and can have ‘fun’ oledi..hehehe
but believe me….it is 2 different feeeling…..
February 2nd, 2008 at 1:42 pm
so, you mean all these while you re “V”?
February 2nd, 2008 at 7:34 pm
i don’t know what’s wrong with people being extremely shocked when discovering a “V”