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Archive for May, 2008
Sights
May 30th
it's a quiet Friday, after weeks of hectic-dom — I am most grateful. Finally found the time to load some photos to flickr, and these are some that I especially like, the more memorable ones.
We came across this quaint little donation box at a little temple on the island of Pangkor.
My current 'most favouritest' photo of Rev Sivin Kit. For some reason the pastor is so biasa in real life, but on photos he seems so bergaya.
Which brings me to another one:
'Speak to the hand?'
These few weeks would have been disastrous on the soul, but thank God for the makan nights out, with Mr Food Finder Steven (Left of pic, guy with the silverc cross) being our guide to all the best places to eat. Taken at Restoran Gafan (Tmn Connaught), although, personally I prefer the shop at Damansara.
And finally, its hard to say I hate the job when it takes me to places where there are stone bunnies that look strangely distorted.
Realities
May 29th
I'll tell you a little secret. Each time it rains with the whole shebang, lightening, thunderstorms, strong winds and all, a part of me shrivels in fear. When I look out of the window and see the trees swaying in the howling winds, I automatically go into a silent prayer, 'Spare me, spare me…'
Things have changed recently, its either I've gotten more sensitized to the weather and the things around me… or the afternoon thunderstorms have become a little more violent these days, and sometimes when the wind blows, I fear it would be the end of me, the end of all of this.
Then again, the great Krakatoa hasn't erupted yet, so maybe, just maybe my fears are unfounded.
And these are just the problems with the weather.
…
Eric and I have decided that we won't be buying a house. Of course the main reason why we've decided to do this is mostly due to a lack of economic funds… right now we're just unable to commit to a long term loan that would require us to put aside over a thousand ringgit a month. The price of food has risen so significantly that we both can now feel the strain. We had Chicken Rice yesterday, Eric had to pay RM12 for two plates and two glasses of herbal tea. Just five years ago we could go on a simple date for RM8, and have additional money to spare for the car park. I don't understand how come we can have the expensive galleys at Star Hill Plaza, Pavillion and The Gardens, or how afternoon buffet lunches at hotels like One World and Le Meridien can go up to RM80 per person. I wonder who walks into these places to get those expensive bags, or how can anyone keep affording to spend over RM50 on lunches every other day — I work in Bangsar, I see the rich every other day and I just cannot understand this spending…
The gap between the rich and the poor, its so obvious if you're driving to work each day (where I work) that you begin to understand the fear of the people. Amidst the better tarred roads along the Jalan Jalan Pantais, where there are exclusive kindergartens housed in bungalows (the school children get chauffeured to work and there are guards taking the kids in and out of Mercedes Benzs and Alphards), just one or two kilometers away there is the vastly overpopulated crazily crowded low costs flats and the hidden dirty slumps of Bangsar… This is where I work, a place where the gap between the rich and the poor is most glaring… and you can see the fear and selfishness in the eyes of the well-to-do (I am not generalising, its hard to walk along Jalan Bangsar and smile to a stranger and get smiled back at)…The shops along Jalan Telawi (1, 2, 3) they say, fetch a monthly rental return of over RM20,000 each, but we know the urban poor live not too far away below the foothills of Pantai Hillpark.
In the papers, you read of riots in Indonesia, and impending lifting of subsidies in so many other countries… you read of the Junta putting restrictions on outreach programmes to victims of the cyclone, and then you read of the Chinese struggling to start over whilst mourning for their lost… then you flip to the Metro sections or even Pages 5 and 6 in our main papers and you see the orang kaya-kaya Malaysia who stand with each other in their expensive suits holding a printed mock cheque in colourful bold headings. They donate money and they want people to know they've given.
Its sad how the rich are so good at demanding and yet so lousy at giving.
Five Months
May 26th
I have five more months to go as a single 'Miss' before walking down the aisle to say 'I do' when the minister asks me to take Eric as my lawfully wedded husband.
I think I deserve every right to get nervous over the eventual leaving of the bird's nest.
The realities to come hit me smack in the face:
- New home
- New furniture
- Sleeping beside someone
- Having sex!
- Having babies
- Becoming a mother!
… OMG …
…
In light of the things that are happening in Malaysia and the world, I don't think I'm alone in wondering whether we're able to, as a nation of people, survive the next fifty years. Sometimes I also wonder if we will be able to survive the end of the year. If you're looking at life that way then you realize it choices become extremely important. Is it enough to just survive living, or is it possible that we can do more than survive death? I try very hard to look at my life as temporary, so that it gives somekind of deadline to the things I can manage to do while I'm here on human earth. I do want to get married and have children wonder, have no doubt about that, and whatever happens, I want to be able to get up to the place where people go after they die and happily say to myself I died exhausting every single bit of talent I was given, and my life was meaningful.
This sounds really corny, but right now the bride-to-be in me is really really looking to that added meaning in my life. I'm gettting married in five months! WHOA!
Minggu-minggu akan datang
May 21st
Tomorrow – to Lumut, bringing yet another group of people to view our power station in Lumut, and then off to Pulau Pangkor for a tour and a later river cruise. And then by Saturday, I'll be back in KL again, Monday's jammed packed with meetings, and then we have to planned for a trip to Perhentian, where once again I'll be bringing another bunch of people to see the very first wind turbines in Malaysia. That's a three-days two nights stay, that one. Then after that another 2 days 1 night stay in Putrajaya.
Oh oh yeah forgot the 5 days 4 nights visit to Terengganu for the Sukma (we supply power for the games mah)…
Man I feel like a damned tour agency these days.
Prayer for the world
May 20th
i don't always do prayers online
i think they're over rated
and always i try to punctuate properly
just that now i think its a little more convenient
to just type off the top of my head
i want to start off with the famous serenity prayer
one that transcents all religions
… u don't have to be christian to say this one
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
and then i want to dedicate a few simple wishes
that i hope god is mighty enough to listen
i believe he listens
i pray for understanding amongst our difference
and a love that transcends our colours
i pray mostly for those who claim to love this man called jesus
that they'll love people for who they are
whether they're buddhist, islam, hindu, ba'hai or anything
it doesn't really matter – we're all called to love each other
i pray for unconditionalism
that we're able to stop being believers of convenience
i pray for people to enjoy giving
i pray that people will learn to forgive great people who make mistakes
i pray that we can start to forgive murderers
and rapists and killers
or corrupt politicians who throw off country's legal systems
because sometimes i think
if we can't even forgive each other
you think we can forgive god for allowing cyclones and earthquakes upon the earth?
i think everything happens for a reason
a disaster should not happen so that we can complain or boast of how god loves the living more
it should happen so that the living can be given the opportunity to show the world
how we can love each other
so love each other we will
i pray that christians will stop obsessing with heaven
and start to live in this world
start to make a difference
and be christ to the people who need us








