Archive for July, 2008

PANIC!

Three Months More and I will be MARRIED.

OMG.

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It will mean I am joining the league of women who can start to openly discuss when and how it is best to make babies (I'm hoping to get preggies soon, or maybe its because for the past few weeks I've seen many babies come into this world and I LOVE LOVE LOVE cutesy fingers and toes). It will mean that I'll be worrying about groceries, and thinking about what to cook this weekend (because duh, I'm going to work still, since I'm a workaholic, and I can't leave my job). It means I am allowed to be possessive over Eric (not to say that I am not possessive already, I am I am). It means I get to settle down and work very hard not to turn into a yellow faced grandma.

Stuff like that.

But right now, I'm panicking – like the wedding cards. Or the simple question like, OMG how to handle the guest, and the very practical issue of 'how do you tell your non-chinese guests that the Chinese typically give people angpaus instead of bedsheets and teasets'. Or that difficult part like 'how do you balance the needs of both families – how to handle the 'dowry discussion'… or that part about, oh sheesh am I going to fit into my wedding dress come the big day?

And the even more minute details like, which tables to put A* and B* because B* doesn't like A* and B* also used to date C* who so happens to be A* old friend, and now D* also in the picture, who looks as if (s)he is dating E* who is apparently hated by all A*,B*, and C* … Wah lau…

I tell you the things I get myself into. Ridiculous. Its a wonder that Eric still wants to marry me (but you know hoh that guy puts himself into greater issues – like starting a business and buying an extra car in the same year he's going to get a new house and get a wife… its a wonder that I am still marrying him!).

We're so made for each other!

We don’t own this life

An opinion is not made to be owned. It exists merely for expression, and once let loose, it should be set free. And so I have learnt, that being opinionated may not be a flattering description if you struggle too much to hold on to that label – an opinion exists after all on planes of expressions, and expressions are whispering flutterbys that disappear with the soft sigh of a human breath. It is heard, said, and then *poof* it goes. The space for new opinions is created, and recreated. 

A God, or God, doesn't exist to be owned. Like something that isn't or that is, He is pure existence, a gathering of possibilities or impossibilities. Like nothing, or something, He is pure words, or pure concept, there, but not there… But because we human beings cling on so tightly to our possessions, we fight to keep God, or our concepts of what a God is (or isn't) to our own realms and boxes of acceptability. When someone disagrees, we turn to what is essentially 'pure possibility' to dictate our inbuilt moral consciences, and define people who do not agree to our rights to possess God, as heretics. And so, wars.

A human being, isn't made to be owned. We exist purely because, and we all deserve our rights to be free. And so when I met him, and I decided I would do whatever it takes to keep him, I decided to cage him up and made sure he would behave the way that I, the owner, would allow him to, I did the biggest, and gravest mistake ever. He struggled, and he fought, and in the end, like a caged animal, he decided to escape from my clutches.

We come from nothing, we live with nothing, we will go into nothing. A long time ago, someone came into this world, and made a difference while he lived. It was either a 'good' difference, or a 'bad' difference, and either way, he made an imprint while he lived. And then, time was up, and like a breath caught in the wind, he was gone. We all have someone like that in our lives, or many people like that in our lives. My grandfather died when I was 13, and but while he lived, he made condensed milk sandwiches and watery Milo for my breakfasts and took us out on walks near that house in Pengkalan Chepa. Jesus came, he lived, he died, (then he lived again, and then he left); or earlier, Buddha came, said many things, then he was gone. Muhammad lived, and he was gone. And so shall we be gone. From nothing we came into existence, and so we will go into nothing. To live rich, is to accept that we own nothing.

I want to believe that this is not just pure rhetoric. But my mind tells me that this is true, I don't own a thing, not even the man I am marrying. Our relationship exists purely because we know we don't own each other – neither of us are possessions for each other to control, in the same way, I keep my sanity intact, because I know I don't own my opinions, my thoughts… my space must be constantly kept free for new ideas to come into being, and then they have to go away to give more place for new things to come in. All of this is temporary.

Time to move on.

Risks.

I'm going to take a risk on Monday. Its nothing big really, but like all risks, require a great deal of trust and optimistic hopefulness. An old friend used to label me 'fatalistically optimistic'. I'll require that, a lot, on Monday.

Today I'm just glad for a very supportive fiancee, very supportive friends and of course, a great mentor from work who has allowed me to grow and mature in his space. I wasn't much of a risk taker in the past, and I used to be careful in making sure all of all possible outcomes prior to making a decision, but this time its a little bit different. To be honest, this is the very first time in my life ever that I'm just walking into an abyss (and although my boss tells me its temporary, I still feel a little bit of fear).

Trust means putting a little bit of faith into the heart, and putting aside the fear, and taking the leap anyway.

Haha, at least I can admit to being excited!

A Prime falling episode

I was at Prime Steak Restaurant at the Le Meridien on Monday for a business luncheon. Now my Eric, he doesn't quite like the food at Prime, which he politely grades as 'overpriced, overrated, not so nice' but I still like going there for business lunches, especially if the guest is of very high priority level – I like the ambience, and I love the huge armchairs they sit you in.

However, Monday's lunch experience at Le Prime Grill kinda killed my opinion of the place. Or maybe they had some trainee waitresses waiting on us that day. I don't know. I just remember the plates clanging and a lot of shuffling around the table as the ladies assigned to our table tried to do their job. And then, as we were just about to dig into our main course, one of the girls actually dropped the plate of butter and cream.

A few minutes later I was to be reminded that the rated five-star restaurant (which places skyscraper prices on its steaks) didn't exactly have very five-starred service. My phone rang, and as it was necessary to answer the call, I took leave from the table and was on my way out of the private room, when I slipped, slid and fell on the hard wood panelled floor with a great thud and half a split. RIGHT in front of my lunch dates. And these were rather important people, mind you, all of them editors and reporters. Talk about a way to impress the guests.

Apparently, the waitress who spilt the butter FORGOT to clean the floor, and so I had conveniently stepped on butter, cream, and oil.

Never mind no one came to apologize to me personally, and instead my staff who was sitting outside was given a card, where the F&B manager said, 'Please tell your friend inside to call me so that we can help her.' That was Monday. So now I fall in your restaurant and you expect me to call you back to tell you, 'Excuse me, sir, thanks to your waitress I fell and hurt myself. So now what?'

Two days later, nursing a bruised hip, a scratched knee and a twisted ankle, I visited the doctor with a black patch on my left foot. 'Its a blood clot, and well, I'm going to give you some reparil, and require you to come back on Monday,' said the doctor. 'If it doesn't get better, we'll have to do an x-ray. I hope there's no broken bones. And oh, no high heels for the next month'

The problem is NOT possibility of broken bones. See I can handle that. But I'm shallow and I have a problem walking around my office in house slippers and a bandaged foot. I'm also shallow to the extent that I want to complain about not being able to wear heels… or the other problem of not being able to take my engagement photos in sexy heels.  I'm so shallow I am not interested in going for business meetings and seminars, limping, in oversized slippers and I am just not keen on telling people the tale of 'how I fell and sprained my ankle at the five starred Prime restaurant.'

Not this month, not this week. Because I have too many meetings to attend and now I've to go to all of them with a limp.

The other thing is I'm just annoyed at the stupid waitress who split butter, because when I looked at her to sign the bill and told her that she needs to be more rigorous and urgent over cleaning up, she just stuck out her tongue in the most unprofessional manner, and instead of saying sorry, she GIGGLED. (You think I'm your friend-ke? Don't do that thing, that's the kind of behavior you reserve for high school kids)

 And the F&B Manager, couldn't even come to me direct, or to our table, because of this reason, 'Didn't want to interrupt you guys in your important conversation,' and instead, he leaves a card behind, telling me and my staff to call them if there's any problem.

So today, I decide to call the front desk of the hotel to highlight the matter. I said, 'Look, this is a five star hotel, its the LE MERIDIEN, and this is really quite ridiculous. Why is it that no one returned to us to at least find out how we were, how our guests were.'

And it took them two days to come up with a defensive, 'Oh yeah we wanted to find out how things were but didn't have your number.'

Gosh. We booked a table and we called a few times to confirm the menu. NO number ke? Come on.

So later in the afternoon I received this bouquet of flowers from the Le Meridien's inhouse florist, Mulberry, with a we're so sorry card attached to it. Cantik kan? But you know, even the delivery guy saw my bandaged foot and he said, 'Aiyoh, the nice flowers won't cover the damages man.'

 Le Meridien Says Sorry

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Well. Its a pretty bouquet, I'll give them that. I had people wishing me HAPPY BIRTHDAY today damn it. And I hate this kind of unnecessary attention. Because of the bouquet I had to point my colleagues to my sandaled feet and tell the tale of the butter slipping incident and the heavy bandage. (Yah I rant, I rant!).

I'm in PR, and in the service industry myself. And honestly, I feel for the hotel. If I were in their shoes, I'd not know what to do either. But I think, here, that the Le Meridien has A LOT to learn from The Mandarin Oriental's Pacifica Grill and Bar. The last time I was invited there for dinner, my friend was served the wrong dish, and the entire meal was given to her FOC with an additional invite to go back for another round.

You'd think the hotel's PR would want to be as discreet as possible about the matter right? But no, they decided to play 'courting Boyfriend' and send me a bouquet of flowers'. COOL! Now I get to tell the WHOLE office and my family, my fiance and my friends how and why I got a bouquet of flowers. Man.

On being a hypocrite

Eric and I thoroughly enjoyed that show starring Dr Kutner, Harold & Kumar: Escape from Guantanamo Bay, which boasted enough pubic hair (seriously), a lot of weed, just enough slapstick humour and a whole awesome poem on the square root of three. There's this awesome line that I recall in parts from a scene where Harold & Kumar meets the whacked out (literally so) President George W Bush of the United States. They fall into Camp David where the president's a weed addict, and so Kumar asks him, 'How can you be the president, smoke weed and pass a law that makes it illegal for anyone in the US to smoke weed? That's hypocritical?'

The president goes, 'Don't preach to me about being hypocritical. Let me ask you, do you like getting handjobs?'

The two guys go, 'Yes of course.'

Then the president goes again, 'And do you two enjoy giving handjobs?'

The two guys look disgusted, and Kumar goes, 'Eeeeewww no!'

And then the president goes, 'So if you like getting handjobs and you don't enjoy giving other people handjobs, don't preach to me about being hypocritical.'

Now that's not verbatim (I can't recall the exact words) but that's one awesome quote that makes you think twice before calling someone hypocritical!