Comments on: There’s also the sadness

By: whimsicaljottings

whimsicaljottings — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 19:15:16 +0000

I bawled my eyes out the day I left Malaysia to be with my dear husband.

Reading your post made me think of mom and all the sacrifices she made for us.

I am very happily married, but I know mom still thinks of me, and worries about me, and that makes things worse. I feel bad too that I had to leave her, my family and move to a different country.

I hope your makeup will be waterproof on The Day. Trust me, you will need it.

Hugs.

By: S-Kay

S-Kay — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 12:32:10 +0000

I had to control my tears while reading it in the office earlier today. I will miss my mom too even though we won’t be living too far off. She’s always telling me that her worries will be over once I’m happily married but deep down inside, I know she’ll continue worrying on whether I’m being treated well by my husband next time.

100% waterproof make up. My best bet on the BIG day. I know I won’t be able to hold my tears.

By: lu

lu — Thu, 16 Oct 2008 06:46:48 +0000

if ur loh kung dun mind mama-in-law stay in together sometimes, tat would b good.

not my bf though he very against the idea staying wif my parents or having them take K of our child, even though his mama oredy said she wont wanna take K our BB coz she got the taste of it oredy while my parents DUN have any grandchild, tiu

By: ychu

ychu — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 13:48:32 +0000

It must be a hard time for you. That’s been my biggest worry all the time,

to be away from home…
to be called someone’s wifen instead of mom’s daughter…
and when we refer to ‘home’, it’s no longer the home we grew up in, the home with the mother…

Sigh… life is harsh, no?

By: Mei

Mei — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 15:44:51 +0000

All I can say is that this post came at the right time for me. Thanks, dear!

By: Mark

Mark — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 06:14:41 +0000

That is so sad. I never thought you had this side to you. It drove me to tears. Please take care of your mom and let her stay with you once everthing has settled down.

By: Hafeez

Hafeez — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 06:03:21 +0000

Beautifully written.

I wish I had a relationship as close as you had with your mom.

Perhaps its a gender thing . Its an old posting of mine but completely at odds to what you are going through.

Sadness too is a virtue we should learn to cherish.

God bless, as always.

By: Siew Mee

Siew Mee — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:20:13 +0000

I’m not married yet but i’m staying at another state studying. I make sure i have lunch with my mom before i leave home for malacca so that i could spend more time with mommy. But every time she waves goodbye at me my heart drops. Every single time, for 3 years now. Thinking she’d be eating alone (she’s a single parent, too), watching tv alone, and living alone. It must be difficult for her but she lets me to pursue my own dreams anyway.

So i can definitely relate to you. Isn’t mom’s love is the greatest love of all? They’re so selfless they always put their children before their priorities but they could never be the only thing in our lives because we have our own paths to go. I guess we can only relate to what our mothers feel at this moment when we become parents ourselves.

I just woke up and your post made me tear. It’s very beautifully written. I’m sure your mama would be very happy reading this. All the best for the wedding & marriage!

By: YJ

YJ — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 02:14:50 +0000

Although not yet married, I feel the same way as you do too. I left home when I was 18, went overseas when I was 19, came back to Malaysia when I was 24, left my hometown for the big city at the same age and everytime I left home, I feel the same way as you do too. That mummy will be alone, no one to talk to mummy when she’s papa’s not around, no one to gossip about her friends and mine, no one to eat lunch with or laze around at home watching tv, no one to share the bed with when papa goes outstation…

Its sad…but I guess its part and parcel of growing up.

I’m sure both you and your mum can relate to the song “Slipping through my fingers” by ABBA.

It makes me cry and makes me appreciate my mother’s love for me even more…

By: miche

miche — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 23:44:45 +0000

i’m in tears now!