It began a while back
There was this idiot of a person who somehow contacted my mom and told her that I was not working anymore and she frantically called me to tell me 'why the hell do you blog about all those nitty gritty details on that thing called minishorts'.
Apparenty, my mom and some of my family members (and many of them naughty enough to read my blog on a daily basis but pretend they don't when we meet up in person), are very traditional non-traditionalists. Its a sin not to work, if you're a woman. It's a bigger sin NOT TO WORK after you're married, if you're a woman.
So my mom called me the other night and she went, 'Girl you know someone from the family called me to tell me that you're not working anymore, and he read it from your blog. Do you know every0ne is talking about it? How can you blog about these things on that thing? Aiyoh don't you write about everything online can or not? Hello?'
So yeah I've had this blog for six bloody years and now that FAMILY is reading the contents as well, they decided to be busybodies and instead of CALLING ME DIRECT to ask me what's up, they get smart and call my mom and bug her about it.
Pardon me if I sound a little bit pissed, but being sneaky and making my mom frantically worried because she's old fashioned (or new-fashioned, depending on how you want to see it) to believe that NOT working is evil and terrible and bad for my resume and reputation, isn't exactly kind and thinking the best for me.
But if anyone calls me direct after reading this, friends, family, whoever you are, for whatever intentions, and if you're about to be bitchy like this idiotic commentor that did a 'for God's sake you're not working and you don't want to do the housework, quit complaining' already, TO everybody out there who knows me or doesn't know me but still wanna give me a piece of your cheap cent and tell me what to do with my life, here's this pack of info just for your benefit:
1. I'm working you idiot. I'm working in a way that you don't understand and I'm too lazy to explain it. It's enough said that my husband happens to earn enough for the two of us (even though he's not very much older than me) and we still like eating at Italiannes every week or so, so we can afford tiny luxuries. Jealous already?
2. I'm also human enough to say that I'm allergic to cleaning toilets. I happen to think it's perfectly NORMAL to say I'm a stay-at-home housewife cos my husband can afford to have me not work, but I still like to have a househelp to help me clean the toilets. Is it not normal? (As you can see I am damn pissed at that bitchy busybody who said I'm terrible because I want a maid even though I don't work. You got a problem with people being normal is it?)
3. Its tiring to do work and do the housework at the same time, and it's difficult when your work is in your own hands, the decisions are your own to make and you're typically reporting to someone very close to you. It's hard to work with friends you know? And I've grown to know this person a little too well already, so there are some things that are hard to do.
What I finally mean to say is, as usual, if you believe every darn letter I print on this side, it's really time to recruit a little more processing skills up there before you churn out any more assumptions and decide to worry my direct family by calling them to tell them 'Hey did you know what's happening in Choo Ki's life now, well apparently….'
Pardon me, but I just, just, just realized that the marketplace busybodies have found their way into the blogosphere.
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January 13, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Ee-yer. So sibuk one those people. If they had a problem, go tell to your facelah, instead of worrying your mom for no reason.
Sibuk punya makcik yang takde kerja, I think. If you want to be a tai-tai and have robo animals do your housework, it’s no one’s business but your own. Sheesh.
January 13, 2009 at 6:00 pm
And it is the main reason why I don’t want my family to find my blog, bleh.
Busybodies will be busybodies. :S
January 13, 2009 at 8:03 pm
No reporting is made when you talked about “deeper” stuff, huh?
Dat’s why. If yu wanna write about yuself, must write “chim chim” wan! Use all those bombastic words, and write like super sophisticated like that! If the only way your writings can be understood is to go through the dictionary at least once for every sentence, they will definitely go and find better things to do wan!
January 13, 2009 at 8:44 pm
OH my, the perils of blogging.
But that really sucks… thing is, well, it means that they’re also concerned about you. Just that the method of showing concern is a bit off tangent.
At least you still have this space to rant and clarify your feelings, right?
January 13, 2009 at 11:51 pm
it sucks when relatives read your blog…now i dont have freedom of blogging in my own blog too.
January 14, 2009 at 2:43 am
I don’t understand what’s with most Malaysians and the idea that a married woman only has value if she works full-time. Intelligence, character and other things don’t matter? One can be financially independent through other means and not just through full-time work alone.
It’s not you alone. I got this from people back at home when they found out that I wasn’t working. Hello, first of all, how to work without a work permit and secondly, a job in a town of 30K where I don’t speak the local language fluently and where they have never heard of mass communication much or less PR isn’t exactly easy to find.
To be honest, if your hubby and you can afford to do the whole one income thing, then why not? And yes, it’s no one else’s business but yours and to hell with other people.
January 14, 2009 at 9:08 am
aiyah.. so angry for what??? Just like you have every right to say whatever you like in your blog, so can people say whatever they like with their mouth lor.
Your mama also another one, dont know her own daughter well meh?? So excited over nothing…. Sigh…
The world is filled with such KPC and there is really nothing much you can do about it. Yup, they are a pest and most definitely horrible but the only way to counter them is to be indifferent. Nothing gives these KPC as much pleasure as to see a reaction from you.. no matter how small. So.. dont so kiek!
January 14, 2009 at 8:03 pm
This is so weird. I thought conservative people normally DON’T WANT the wives to work but be full-time housewives? (unless you’re saying that being a housewife IS a job)
January 14, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Zeti: Yup, I find it weird as well but after talking to so many other girls and people back at home, it’s not the case. In fact, they find it strange if you tell people that you’re going to be a full-time housewife or SAHM (Stay At Home Mum). For me, it went beyond strange as I started to get supposedly “well-meaning” comments from people like how I should get a job and not sponge off my hubby. O.o
January 15, 2009 at 1:10 am
I guess that’s the result of the feminist movement?
January 15, 2009 at 12:36 pm
ah well, your post :: well expressed…
but then again, you’ll always get one or two of these kind of ppl lurking in your lives lah… one day, gotta ask the great Big Guy in the Sky – whats with all this :-p , as if life isn’t complicated enough already?
zefi: i guess the feminist movement did play a role, but you can’t entirely blame it on that either. ppl have the opportunity to still think and make their own decisions, y’know.
January 15, 2009 at 7:58 pm
Of course people have the opportunity to still think and make their own decisions. What’s that gotta do with suspecting that it’s the feminist movement that has helped develop the “current public view of married women?”
January 15, 2009 at 10:51 pm
[quote]zefi : What’s that gotta do with suspecting that it’s the feminist movement that has helped develop the “current public view of married women?”[/quote]
You just answered your own question.
January 16, 2009 at 8:39 am
That’s so profound…
Now, go and have your icecream. Leave the talk to the grown-ups.
January 18, 2009 at 1:01 pm
Sounds like you’re living it up girl! Enjoy what you have now and live life the way you want la.
Now, I have to make sure my wife never ever stumbles on your blog, lest she gets ideas… haha
January 22, 2009 at 5:42 pm
it’s terrible to have relatives and friends lidat huh?to go straight to mothers and blurt everything they think about you,thinking they’re really smart and well-informed and waiting to see your mom’s reaction as well as hoping to be able to witness mother-daughter feud.sighs.i am surrounded by kepohs lidat as well, so how you feel is my sentiments exactly.ignore them, and live on.i love italiannes too bdw
January 23, 2009 at 2:13 pm
This is why I moved to my Sunflower domain lor… busybody relatives. Beh tahan!