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This is why

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There's a reason why I'm so reluctant to add strangers on Facebook.The first is because, I am active on facebook – meaning I log on at least once a day, and I do read the status updates, and strangers' updates mean nothing to me because I can't connect.

The other part is largely due to my desire to find people I can *sync* with. Adding strangers usually come with that 'ice-breaking' stage, and it includes effort and work before a proper friendship can be formed. What this means, to me, is that if you wanna be my friend, you have got to be a good conversationalist. It means that you have got to have the ability to tune in to my radar. In the same way, I must be able to do the same too.

Now of course this doesn't in anyway mean that I talk to all the hundred of friends listed on my FB. But the thing about people who write in to request, 'Hi, can I be friend?' is this: they're very keen on communicating. The bigger problem is this: they don't know how to communicate. So therein lies the problem – there is no chemistry. There is, this whole desire on the other person's part to pull me (or anyone who's experienced this before) into a pointless exchange.

EG. I hate facebook polls. New friends – omg, can you please not run polls on me? And even if you do, isn't it possible for the polls to have more *intelligent* questions. Stuff like, 'Do you think Claire Khoo will get married?' or 'Do you think Claire Khoo likes dating?' is totally -DUH-. Conversation starters in my inbox like, 'Hi wanna be friend',  is completely devoid of sincerity and presumes a very shallow burst off and I – the atas elitist, don't like wasting time. That's  why I delete, I block, I ignore.

And I don't like talking to people who only talk about politics and whose onlyinterest is to bash up the government and talk about how stupid UMNO / MCA is. See it isn't that I love Barisan Nasional to death – but I see the situation as a 'what is right now'. Coming from the perspective of a Christian, I believe that we're called to love whateverwe have, and its our responsible to work within the boundaries of our given situations – for the best. Complaining all the time about our stupid government (even though, yes I totally agree that they are stupid), is a waste of precious time. I just don't like being kopitiam naysayers because it takes away the intellect of living in this world.

And I happen to like my intellect a little too much to waste time on strangers. Thats why.

*ps. Adding this video cos it's too good not to share!!*